A love boat is broken not only about life. In fact, in each family there are a couple of dozens of controversial issues that can cause cooling to each other. They need to be discussed together, talk about it openly and not "pinching" each other. Well, for example, here's just one of these questions: how many times a week does a normal family have sex?
Sexual pleasure and satisfaction depends on quality, not quantity. This, it seems, is understandable even to the youngest couple. After a honeymoon, sexual desire ceases to be taboo.
It is clear to both spouses that it can be satisfied quite often, and if the family lives separately from their parents, it is also literally at any time. But it's not for nothing that the Bible warns against temptations. And such a temptation in the mononuclear family (husband, wife, and no older generations under one roof) can become sex.
Instead of quietly enjoying the wealth of sensations given by nature, the spouses (and more often the spouse) begin to wonder: how many times a week does a normal family have sex? And is our family normal from this point of view?
It is from here that "very different problems" arise. From dysfunctions to frigidity, and then - quarrels on a completely different topic, seemingly not related to the intimate life of the family. But in fact, much in the relationship is due to the joy that the husband and wife give and receive. Sex can unite the family, and maybe break up.
And yet, how much?
If we proceed from the fact that we measure the quality of sex in a normal family by quantity, then we get the following. Experts say that up to the age of 40 (of course, plus or minus five years), usually the couple are in bed 2-3 times a week.
At an older age, the amount may decrease to 2-3 times a month, and in a relatively young (up to 25 years), men are willing to perform coitus 2-4 times per night. Naturally, experienced husbands can not keep up with them in quantity. But, perhaps, they can compensate for the "lack" of quality, and it is worth considering how to do it ...
On the other hand, even the biggest sex fans, sexologists who regularly talk about its benefits, remind us of the difference in temperaments.
- There are people who are temperamental, hot - but also have little interest in sex.
The last bedtime pleasures are no less fun, but they do not have "cravings" for frequent sex. And there are people with moderate temperate temperaments. And it is not the fact that most of the statistics on the number of sex activities in a "normal" family are made by them - it happens that sexual "skewness" is due to high motivation for sex temperamental couples.
What causes tragedies?
No matter how many times a week there is sex in the so-called "normal" family, it is not worth considering. After all, counting kills all romance, spirituality, turns erotic, bewitching occupation into a routine. Another household matter is to satisfy a husband (or a temperamental wife) - this is not the same as enjoying mutual desires. Where there is a duty - there is no creativity, sincere joy and novelty. And then the husband (or wife) complains that the spouse (s) are monotonous in caresses or prefer a certain pose.
Tips for those who want to "measure" the number of
The best advice for those who are going to calculate how many times a normal family has sex for a week or a month will be the wish to calculate how many times a month there was borsch, or how many times they ate chocolate.
And only that which is not "consumed", but remains an act of joint creativity, the application of mental forces - is still fun and relevant.
In other cases, if you really want to count - think about who you are doing this for. If for a neighbor - as in a well-known anecdote about the old man and his sexually active acquaintances, the doctor advised correctly. "And you also tell them." And do not try to make a family bedroom an arena for the Olympic Games.
After all, spouses are adults, and understand that creativity and diversity are incompatible with the motto "faster, higher, stronger."