History of the genre
Yes, the word "flirtation" originally meant exactly the ability to give flowers. It appeared among courtesans in France in the middle of the 17th-18th centuries. Although the history of flirting itself goes far into the centuries, naturally, to the most famous seductress of the ancient world, Cleopatra. It was the last queen of Egypt from the Ptolemaic dynasty that introduced incense, oils, and perfumes with pheromones, which she used to attract the attention of the opposite sex. In the modern sense, the word "flirting" was introduced by the English writer Chesterfield. He described one of the great ways of Lady Francis, where she skillfully used the tricks of flirting with the help of a fan: she opened it, then closed it, then hid the whole face, then only her eyes. She did it so clearly that the man who talked with her jokingly made a remark for teasing behavior, she said that she was just fanning herself, and this, too, was called flirting. Since then, this kind of coquetry has become a classic.
The subtleties of flirting
And further clothes, shoes, hairstyles, accessories, perfumes - it all became inalienable attributes of the art of temptation and coquetry.
Depending on who is using flirting, a man or a woman, he is divided into temptation or coquetry respectively.
Technique of temptation
Men in the majority still use the art of temptation, real men are not interested in the game for the sake of the game itself, unlike women. The famous tempers of Don Juan and Casanova had an extraordinary, simply magnetic influence on women. What is the reason? It's all about the methods.
1) A studious, studying look is the main weapon of a man in flirtation, he must be persistent and bold, intriguing. With such a look a man shows you interest and predisposition to his chosen one.
2) Smooth posture, straightened shoulders, chin up-so a man demonstrates his strength, confidence and significance. A woman, whether she wants it or not, will always allocate it from hundreds of others.
3) Smile - weapon number 1 in the arsenal of temptation both in women and men. That's just a man's smile is not enticing, but, rather, approving, it shows that it's nice to look at you.
4) Involuntary movements are very characteristic of men during flirting. They do it unintentionally, everything happens by itself: an easy touch to your cheek, as if checking the presence of prickly bristles, automatically rub yourself on the chin or fix the tie - if the man does it all, be sure, you like him immensely - and this is not that other, as flirting.
5) Help - offer your jacket or coat or an umbrella, open the door - it's not just rules of good taste or a sign that a man cares about your health - this is also a flirtation that is genetically laid in the representatives of the stronger sex. Peculiar echoes of troubadours who sang serenades for their beloved under the windows or sent flowers with secret notes. By the way, the famous tempter Casanova used these same elements of flirting, without inventing any veiled tricks. His main weapon was confidence and sincere love for women.
The tricks of the flirt
Female flirting is much more complicated, more skillful, thinner. Women flirting involuntarily and specifically, for the sake of coquetry, in order to achieve their personal goals. It is the representatives of the fair sex who are the initiators of flirting, the first to single out a man, drag him into his game.
1) A woman's view is not at all an open and intimate man's, but on the contrary - a languid, unstable one. Classics of the genre - a fleeting, slightly shy beckoning look, a sweep of eyelashes and a look at the floor, repeated, a control sweep of eyelashes in a minute. This view will not leave indifferent any man.
2) Smile - not necessarily lips, because a light, exciting glitter in the eyes is also a kind of smile, and she will give him your interest in them.
3) Sign language - easy to throw back the hair, as if lightly nudging the neck, easy rocking the shoe, spectacular throwing one leg to the other - the man, whether he wants it or not, will become an involuntary participant in your game.
4) Voice-quiet, soft. Men immediately distinguish it from hundreds of others, and laughter is contagious, merry, all this acts hypnotically on them. What matters is what you say: uncomplicated topics, ambiguous phrases - and flirting will acquire an intriguing aspect.
5) Touch is the last and most powerful weapon in your arsenal, which determines the purpose of your actions. With light flirting, psychologists advise to reduce touch to zero, otherwise the game can go beyond your goals. Remember: "social zone" - 1.2 m, "personal" - 70 cm and "intimate" - 45 cm. Decide on the goal and cross the permitted boundaries according to them. Flirtation is the eternal riddle of the two sexes, their mystery and mutual interest. Use it masterly, making life rich and exciting. What will help to be beautiful, healthy, fun and without wrinkles every day? The secret is in the daily manifestation of love! Three 20-second kisses in the morning can create a consistently good mood for the day - a conclusion made by psychologists at the University of Berlin, led by Lars Hagen. The duration of an ideal kiss is considered to be 3 minutes, scientists say, who conducted observations of a hundred pairs of different ages. In addition, all those interviewed after this pleasant procedure looked at their lives exclusively in a positive way. A long kiss can stop an attack of vegetative dystonia due to the normalization of the human hormonal background.