This law of meanness, which we very often experience is manifested everywhere, not only in relationships. He meets everywhere where we want everything to be all right, everything goes smoothly, when something matters to us, and we think that at least it will work out, we pray to God, and he does not go out, and we immediately think that this is a law of meanness or, why am I so unlucky? How different is the law of meanness ? The law of meanness, it's the law of bad luck, it's Murphy's law, it's the law of a sandwich. One of my friends said that you need to treat everything "with a light hand." But it certainly is not possible, when something is important for you, it is impossible to easily relate to it. For example, during the exam you do not think: "I will not give it today, I'll pay it another time." Or they went for an interview, a good place with a good salary and with favorable prospects for the future and I do not think that you will think: "they will not take me here, I will settle down in another place". It will be important to you in any case.
And what is the law of meanness? Where does he come from, and who invented it? Furrow the vastness of the Internet, storming all the sites that come to my eyes, I never found the answer to my question. These sites asked the same question that I'm asking myself now. I came across history, how this law came into being, who invented it, how this law entered our life. But I did not find an answer to my question what kind of force attracts our fears, why does the unwanted happen at an undesirable moment? When you hurry to meet a man of your dreams, when you bring beauty, and when you leave the house, pigeons fly over you and satisfy the needs of your body along the way, and then this satisfaction appears on your new blouse, automatically thoughts of the law of meanness appear in your head , it's the law of bad luck. So why did the pigeons fly above you today? And why did they want to correct their needs at that moment? You every day go out of the house, every day you go somewhere, but less important than this meeting.
The world is very interesting. There are different hypotheses about the structure of the universe and the cosmos, where it is said that the cosmos attracts all our desires and fears. In this case, you are afraid, worry, that everything went in the ideal. That is, you direct your fears into space, and the cosmos performs them in the form of pigeons, or an overturned glass of wine to your new skirt in an expensive restaurant. After all, space does not distinguish good from bad, and does not understand jokes, so you need to think about good seriously. Of course, all this depends on the degree of the desired and not desired. That is, how much you want or do not want this situation to happen to you.
But how not to think about the bad? After all, involuntarily you still think about something bad, and then, realizing that you are doing this, you are driving away these terrible thoughts from your bright head. Probably there is already need to do their education and domestication not to think about the bad. In general, to become a positive person for one hundred and fifty percent out of a hundred.
That's quite another thing, when a person initially refers to everything "with a light hand." Probably, it depends on education, on the outlook, on the attitude of man to life. But here such education initially comes from the smallest years or from the adolescence, when our views radically change and some of them remain with us until the end of life. Since childhood, the foundation has been formed "to everything from a light hand". All this comes from an unfavorable relationship between a person and the world around him. All this happens indirectly, that is, a little man does some correct conclusions in his own opinion and begins to adhere to them. And in turn, adult parents who are absorbed in adult problems, do not notice the small problems of their small offspring, and then these little problems turn into adult problems of small and adults.
There are, of course, positive aspects in this. To some extent, a person begins to treat everything "with a light hand". But I think, whatever a person was, it is not possible to treat everything with a light hand, it will already be considered as some kind of psychological illness that requires immediate attention and urgent treatment.
But maybe we just idealize everything? And what if this man is not as good as we think? We look at everything through "rose-colored glasses" and inspire ourselves that this is the best thing that can be, and when we burn, that is, the law of meanness interferes with our seemingly ideal life, we seem to have an ideal life, we remove rose-colored glasses and begin to blame Murphy's law in all. And later we begin to understand that this is not the best that can be. And we begin to soberly watch and evaluate the world and everything that surrounds us. Perhaps the law of meanness is good for us? Does not allow us to make those mistakes that we would have made, looking through rose-colored glasses. And maybe it's worth to say thanks to doves for the fact that they, flying over you, satisfied their physical needs, while you were rushing to a date with a super-man or for an interview for a super-job.
Look at the world realistically and evaluate everything soberly, and then you will not be hampered by any law of meanness.