There are couples who, during their sexual development, gradually come to the idea that it would be nice to refresh the relationship, dilute them with something new, for example, having sex with several partners. For some, this does not go beyond fantasies, but to others, a real embodiment of their secret desires is necessary. It's not about group sex. Like-minded people of this kind of relationship are usually called swingers.
In translation from English swing (swing) - swing, swing. In general, this is a musical term that came to us from jazz and means a quick transition from one topic to another. Hence the modern interpretation, the definition of swing, as a short-term, mutually agreed exchange of sexual partners. Many consider it a sexual promiscuity, a perversion, a deviant form of behavior. Swingers, insist that this is a completely normal relationship, this is a certain style of life, movement, a kind of philosophy. The fact that this kind of relationship exists and he has many followers and supporters is a fact. Swingers, under this kind of relationship, try to bring a historical basis. According to their version, man, especially men, is polygamous, hence this form of sexual life, relationships and entertainment has existed since time immemorial. But this is considered a privilege of people free, liberated, devoid of complexes and prejudices.
The basic idea of swing is that any person needs a variety in sexual life. In any pair, even where there was once an unearthly love, sooner or later a moment of habituation and oversaturation happens to each other. Some begin to just be friends, leaving the intimacy only as a pleasant memory, or occasionally perform a matrimonial duty to one another - and only. Others, for the most part - go to seek adventure on the side. Marriage on the verge of collapse. And here swingers perform on the arena, which offer their own version of the fight against sexual dissatisfaction in family relationships. This exchange partners, sex four. Swingers argue that in this way, you can not only save the marriage, exclude treason, but also learn to achieve maximum of its sensuality. It is here, in the swing, that the highest point of passion and pleasure is known.
At first glance, the relationship of swingers is erratic, but this is not entirely true. Here, as in any movement, there are basic rules and norms, their own foundations and traditions. Although you can not reduce the rules of swing relations to a single code (although the swingers themselves argue that such a set of rules exists), but something can be inferred. Of course, the basic rules of swing relationships - this is not an absolute dogma, there are variations on this topic, where the limits and limitations seem to lose their significance and strength.
So, the basic rules of swing relationships can be considered the following postulates:
- The prerogative of every swinger is to say no. It may
mean anything, within the framework of the concept of the given word. This is the unconditional right of any swinger.
- You can not try to destroy a marriage, get involved in another's relationships and family. No pressure. The exchange of pairs must occur between pairs. The participation of so-called singles can lead to the emergence of a new novel, which contradicts this rule and does not correspond to the idea of swing.
- Swing can be as open - the exchange takes place in front of each other, and closed. When the form of swing is closed, couples first communicate together, and then for further sexual contact they are removed to different rooms. Open version is not suitable for everyone, it can be practiced by people confident in themselves and their sexual abilities. Otherwise, it can cause psychological trauma, and various kinds of trouble. In order to avoid conflicts, many couples actively practice closed swing, as a more sparing version of sexual exchange.
- To this kind of swing relationship should be mutual readiness and consent not under duress.
Not many people know that swing is not an obligatory exchange of couples. It is possible to have sex with each other, just next to another couple.
Summing up, I want to note that swingers' relations are really free, they are expressed not only in the freedom of exchange of partners, but also in freedom of choice, in personal freedom, where there is no place for violence from any position.