Bring the relationship with her husband to a new level

"Something we have ceased to understand each other: like I and my husband - from different planets!" - "Yes, and my relationship with my husband recently is difficult to call ideal." Such conversations are not uncommon among wives with a more or less decent experience of communication. It seems to be all right: a well-established life, beloved children, such a close, almost native, husband. The fact of the matter is that for many years of family life the relationship with her husband was somewhat ... worn out as old clothes, and in order to avoid further "decrepitude", they simply need to be taken to a new level. We will not now consider the consequences of such a dangerous thing as treason - in most cases no "new level" will help here. Although it's worth trying, after all, treason does not arise suddenly, on an equal footing, for it there are certain prerequisites. Let's try to determine: what is missing for your husband and what is missing for you?

For all people, women and men, in our pragmatic age of high speeds there are not enough simple, but such important things: love, understanding, tenderness, romance, communication, finally. In addition, marital relations take place in several stages: first, it is passion, love, when it is impossible to get saturated with each other. Then - lapping, adjustment of life, awareness of others' interests. Next - addictive, loss of interest in each other ... Stop! At this stage it's time to bring the relationship to a new level. And if this is not done on time, family happiness can "crack at the seams".

Women often make common mistakes, not paying proper attention to the relationship with their husbands. If you want to be loved and desired before the golden wedding, remember what can not be done.
Firstly : after the wedding you can not relax - the husband does not have to love you in a foul dressing gown and curlers. He married an attractive and enchanting woman.

Second : in order to have enough time for yourself, your beloved, properly distribute household duties - you did not hire him to join the housekeeper? And your eternal fatigue and "headache" in bed, he is unlikely to adequately assess.

Third : constantly take care of his self-esteem - do not criticize in public, more often make compliments, it is proved that men simply adore them.

Fourth : relations at a new level are impossible without understanding and respect for others' interests, as well as comprehensive communication. Communicate, invent joint hobbies, together visit public places, but without fanaticism! Let each of you have your own, untouched corner. Coincidence and mutual respect of interests - that will help to pull the relationship out of the protracted crisis.

Fifth : relations with her husband at a new level are impossible without a harmonious sexual life and faithfulness. With this it is difficult to argue - betrayals and dissatisfaction in the intimate sphere - a direct path to divorce. So, trying to bring the relationship with her husband to a new level, never resort to flirting, let alone intrigues. Do not think that if they say that my husband does not care about me, then at least he will notice me that way. Of course, he will notice, yet, but he is unlikely to behave as you expect. In the best case, it will end in a scandal, at worst - the exploit of Othello.

Sixth : the distribution of the family budget. It's nice when the husband is an oligarch, but such "happiness" falls out as often as winning a lottery. So most of us have to live, as they say by means. And to wonder if we really need a third pair of shoes for the season, or maybe we should encourage her to buy a new fishing rod? Worse, of course, when neither to shoes, nor to a fishing rod - for food is barely enough. But, let's not talk about sad things.
And finally, most importantly - love your husband, because once you chose it on him!