Love and jealousy often put on one shelf, and this is true: jealousy on the ground of love - the only kind of jealousy that allows you to openly show all their claims and resentments of a loved one. In this article, we will examine what kind of women are in relation to jealousy and how they react to it.
Jealousy is an insult. I am neglected
You are afraid to lose the attention of others and your jealousy is not intense, but comprehensive. My husband works hard all the time, "you do not count", the cat lusts towards a friend, and "neglects you". There is a suspicion in you that a computer and a book for a loved one are more important than you, since he does not come off them. A purely sexual betrayal you forgive easy, especially fleeting - if after it repent, swear that "never again, because you - the best!" And give you their attention and care.
As manifested . Insult to the one who is jealous: "Kakon could me, so wonderful, do not appreciate and do not reckon with my interests?" From the outside, you may not look jealous at all. But in the shower you often smolder a twinkle of jealous annoyance.
Than it is dangerous . Constant conflicts with the surrounding. If you give such jealousy to the will, the relations are gradually broken not only by akin, but also simply with familiar people.
How to extinguish . Explain to yourself the motives of another person's behavior, deliberately refusing to "that he intends to ignore you." And you will find the truth.
Jealousy as a way of self-affirmation. Everyone should love me only
Some are in need of constant recharge of their value. And it is painful for them to realize that other people are putting someone on a step higher. A woman of this type is jealous when her husband is polite with other ladies. She is jealous of a former lover to his new friends, although she is happy in marriage. She would like a lover to long for her forever. She is jealous of the bosses to colleagues, the saleswoman - to the buyers.
As manifested . A grief: "It turns out that I'm bad!", Suffering and self-blame. Often such a woman seeks to become an ideal. Someone is taken to belittle others.
Than it is dangerous . It makes you set yourself a unreal goal: to become perfection. Sometimes it spoils the relationship with others because of the attempts to belittle them all.
How to extinguish . It is necessary to realize that from wonderful women, too, husbands leave, perfection bothers. To keep someone allows only our uniqueness. If your husband lives with you, then he loves you. And how good are you for the cashier in the supermarket ... Do not you care?
Jealousy of the owner. My! Will not give it back!
You are jealous only of your close ones - husband, children, parents - to those who go beyond this circle. For example, the husband - to the mother-in-law or children - to friends. Your jealousy is deep and painful. Jealousy to work, to study or to a computer you are unfamiliar. You understand that your husband's work will not be taken away, and his new young deputy is very even. Often, you are jealous of the past, it is difficult for you to forgive physical treason and the shadow of the "third superfluous" is a long time on your bed.
As manifested . Anger and open accusations. Tysama knows this with you, and it is clearly visible to others.
Than it is dangerous . First: in the anger of excess you can tell, and then you have to apologize, suffer repentance. Second: unjust accusations and demands to be only with you are sometimes encouraged by the partner of the kizmen.
How to extinguish . Honestly to admit to yourself and others: "Yes, I'm jealous!" When we confess in some way, it's much easier to manage this. It's useful to separate those you have the legal right to be jealous of - the husband from all-new children and other relatives.
Suspicious jealousy. Prove to me your love
You are usually jealous of the most important person for you, more often a beloved man, less often - a child or mother, sometimes a mentor, a chef. You do not believe that you are important to him, and all the time you suspect him that he is playing love, and he uses you in his own interests, lies and pretends. And every smile of his own address strengthens your suspicions.
As manifested . Quietly and for a long time boils, showing irritability, suspicion: "And why is he so generous? Has changed? ", And the demand:" Prove that you love! "Often ends with a violent flash that looks like total mistrust.
Than it is dangerous . The constant demands of large-scale evidence of love from her husband ("Do not communicate with your friends", "throw your own towels"), from your son ("Do not go to a foreign university") is repelled from such a woman first and second.
How to quit . The task is not easy. It helps total control over what and how to say. And a constant reminder to yourself about how easy it is to offend the other with distrust and lose forever.