A successful career in the male sense often resembles asphalt laid over the flower bed of a family life. But if the mother of the family acts as a successful businesswoman, she will do everything to turn the asphalt career bridgehead into a flower garden in which the work ticks like happy little children, cats and dogs rush on soft grass, and adults play a role with pleasure gardeners of this small paradise ...
Infernal efforts
As you know, the embodiment of such paradisiacal plans in life requires a woman's hellish efforts - these are the modern realities. In the dry language of figures, these selfless investments are hidden behind quite a nice figure of 50 - exactly one percent more working women are employed day by day by a career and a family than men. That is, it turns out that both at work and at home a woman works for two. And there is no need to enumerate what this double contract is all about - half of the women regularly take work on the house, and household chores are completed far after midnight in order to catch everything.
Because of this, women's ambitions are more difficult to implement than men's - in this, in fact, the notorious inequality of the sexes is expressed. Because many women are forced to calculate each step. But the main question, perhaps, for all of us sounds standard: "First, have children, and then make a career, or vice versa?" But the answer depends on who exactly is responsible for it.
Work approach
In favor of the first option for quite understandable reasons doctors will say - to postpone the birth of a child "for later", of course, it is possible, but this process is sometimes unjustifiably prolonged. For a specialist in the selection of personnel, the presence of children in a child means that in the near future it will most likely not go to the decree. But the arguments of "cynical careerists" look very significant: you must first "rise", and then really "settle down" in order not to experience further financial difficulties. In a word, the victims are unavoidable. Often, their price - a complex of guilt, pursuing mother-careerists. Some did not hear their children say their first word, others did not see the first step of their child, the third did not remember what the name of the class teacher. Paradoxically, it's a fact: subordinates often complain that the children of the bosses are preventing their parents from coping with job duties. At the same time, female leaders are criticized twice as often as men. Despite all these complaints, today many companies and companies are ready to meet the working parents to help them to fulfill their family tasks somewhat. Such counter assistance includes medical insurance for family members, additional "child" days for vacation, partially paid vouchers for children's camps and sanatoriums. The soft approach is also manifested in the fact that employees of some firms and companies can, if necessary, bring their child to the office, instead of sitting at home with him, or to take time off from work, in order, for example, to have a parent meeting at a kindergarten or school. And the authorities look at it through their fingers - as long as the work is done qualitatively and on time. But this local help in trying to combine work and family is a drop sizzling on the glowing stone of the daily female life. And if this stone gives a crack, the woman will have to think harder than fill these cracks. To life by and large does not crack at the seams, a woman dared to become successful in all respects a business mom, it is worth listening to the advice of those who won this fight.
Council number 1 The sooner you have children, the more chances to continue to make a career, because the female career peak falls on 35-40 years.
Tip # 2 If this option is not for you, then, before you have a child, make a career, not being scattered over trifles.
Tip # 3 After the birth of a child, find a suitable au pair, nanny or secretary. If you want to do it yourself, then it's better to hire a secretary.
Tip # 4 If you plan to have several children, take a longer maternity leave each time. The reason is obvious: more children - more time for them.
How to build your life?
Can a woman, combining work and family, not feel "driven by a horse"? Can! The main thing is to organize everything. The schedule of a woman mother during the school year is subject to a certain schedule, on some days - swimming and dancing, in some - English and just free time. Remain unchanged cleaning, cooking, work. Try not to interfere with the work of the family, because in the first place, of course, the family and its problems, but at the same time it should not also grow into work. Do not let her quality suffer. Over the years, specialists developed a set of rules: that in the morning there was no hassle, all the necessary preparations are done in the evening. If you plan a holiday, prepare for it beforehand: buy gifts, think through the program. It's very hard, when everything is at the last moment, then one's nerves and no pleasure. Still it is possible to translate all hours for 7 minutes forward. Because with so many people it's difficult to get out on time - every time someone brakes. In general, it was noticed long ago: the more a woman needs to be in time, the more organized she is. He just knows that today you can not relax, therefore, more focused.
For example, it seems to you that doing sports for you is an unrealistic task. Once. And it turned out that you can go to the pool at 8:30 - just before work you have time to swim. Previously, you always sent everyone in the morning to school, a kindergarten and a whole hour were going to work. This is, of course, a very pleasant time: you can safely drink coffee, put yourself in order. But if you leave the house with everyone, then you can spend this hour in the pool or gym - you leave there and you are so proud! The same with the weekend: you can sit all day at home under the motto "I'm cleaning!" And nothing really to do. And you can think over and organize this day in such a way as to help the children to make lessons, go to the rink, and bake the cake in the evening, and drink tea together. And, of course, one should never give up the help of relatives: let the parents help, let the husband be involved in all family affairs.
Can a woman combine in her work and family her goals and methods of achieving them? Every woman in this sense has her own way. And the strength of each of us is in our uniqueness. The main thing is to understand what exactly you are striving for and what is your rhythm of life. Since in the first place for any normal woman a family and children, then business is harmoniously connected with children. Moreover, children can take an active part in the work! Participate in promotions, tangibly help in the office. Of course, this applies to older children. And before this age they need to be even more expensive. But then, once you decide for yourself whether a woman can combine work and family, you will get rid of the need to choose your path. It is already selected. Strive for the goal - and it will be achieved.