At the age of 18 to 30 months, when a child has learned to move, conflicts between a child and an adult can easily arise.
The thirst for knowledge and the naive pranks of the child force parents to strictly control it, or, on the contrary, ignore the interests of a violent child. If you do not get "cooperation" during feeding, going to sleep or dressing, the baby is trying to force.
Coercion only aggravates the protest. And if, by punishing, the adult is also inconsistent, then disobedience grows. For example, parents often work late - they do not have the opportunity to deal with the child all the time. Or the mother and father live separately, are irritated and consider themselves guilty.
They make illogical demands, showing the children that they should not and try. And the child continues to be capricious.
Parents, in order to put it in place, become aggressive, destroying in the child the remnants of a sense of security. As a result, he becomes disobedient, detached from his parents and may even treat friendly conversation with hostility.
Three-year-old children have already formed the basic features of behavior and communication. Now the important role will play the ability of the parent to support the child's self-esteem. It is necessary to encourage his independence, but also allow the child to face the consequences of inappropriate behavior, without punishing. If the relationship between the parent and the child lacks warmth and sensitivity, then between them there is distrust and bitterness: communication occurs only when something is very necessary, and the child is trying to achieve his by any means.
Acquired at home aggressiveness children can demonstrate in kindergarten. Educators complain, and the parent forms the image of an uncontrollable child, hostile and disobedient. The child does not accept the rules of communication, because you rarely have to pay because they are used as a means of control. And the child who lives in fear of punishment, is formed by external motivation: he does everything just to please others. Internal mores are dislocated: you can lie, but you can not come across.
A child at the age of 2.5 years should not get everything he wants. But the capricious kid needs help to calm down - he does not know how to do it yet. To do this, use as many different methods as possible, which will be an example for him. To curb feelings, it is necessary for the child to distinguish between them. Help to understand: "you are sad", "you are angry," etc.
Encourage the child, on the basis of this, his self-esteem is formed. Do not be limited only to the word "well done", but be specific: "Today you could calm down when you were angry. Clever! "
Engage in daily activities with your child. So he will learn to solve problems on his own and will be able to rely on you when feelings overwhelm.
If a child rolls up hysteria, do not get angry with him. Calmly find out what he does not like or worries about, and try to find a solution together. And remember, immediate punishment will not lead to anything good.