Some parents pamper their children too much, without even thinking that they do not do very well. Spoiled children grow up, as a rule, in those families where parents fulfill every whim of the child, and all moods turn into a certain cult.
Children who are spoiled, from the smallest age consider themselves elected, they develop feelings such as callousness, selfishness, rudeness, tactlessness. They are capricious and quite often complain about their parents, peers, although most of the claims have no basis. With such children it is difficult not only for parents, but also for educators in kindergarten, and teachers in school.
A spoiled child always wants an increased attention to himself and usually envies the successes of others. Therefore, young parents ask themselves how to raise a spoiled child. And for this you just need to know how to behave correctly.
In the first year of life, it is difficult to spoil the child, but it is quite possible to lay the foundation for spoiling in the future. If the whole day the mother does not take her eyes off her child, constantly offers him that one, then another pleasure, tries to entertain him, then most likely she exceeds the need of the baby in attention and care. Thus, after a couple of years, the kid will understand that his mother is completely in his power.
As a rule, children are spoiled by those parents who:
- long waited for the baby and therefore give him increased attention, they are afraid that they will not have a second child;
- have been educated as a psychologist or educator and now think that they must prove their competence;
- are not sure of their abilities, and therefore turn themselves into slaves of their baby, putting on him hopes of unfulfilled dreams;
- feel dislike for their child and try to make it up to them by fulfilling all the whims and whims.
Spoiled most often are the first children, because with the second child, parents are already more experienced and behave more confidently.
Of course, parents want the child to have all the best that the kid does not need anything. The baby wants to eat deliciously and beautifully to dress - for many parents this is a sign of good childhood. However, perhaps this is the criterion of the happiness of the parents, and not the child at all. After all, a kid does not care how much a toy or a T-shirt costs. It is necessary to teach the child to respect others and their desires. The most important thing for a child is the love of parents and loved ones, and not material benefits. None of the most expensive laptops will not replace walks on a day off in the park or a trip to the rides. A real man is not the one who fights on the playground, but one that is responsible for his actions. If you continue to pamper, then the day will come when parents will become only a money bag for the child, and most important for him will be himself.
Below are simple rules, adhering to which, you can raise a child without spoiling it:
It is necessary to explain to the baby what is the difference between necessity and idle desire.
Toys with which the baby does not play and things that are no longer suitable for the size can be collected together with the child and taken to an orphanage. The child will understand that there are people in the world who initially do not have everything necessary. So the child will learn to feel compassion and share with others.
It is necessary to be prepared for the fact that the baby will constantly compare himself with others. Comparison with others is normal human behavior. Each person in something achieves more than others, and in something lags behind. Because of this, a situation arises when a child needs a certain thing only because it is in someone else's. Buy in this situation, the thing can only be if the thing is really necessary and useful. If this is another trinket, then you should not buy it, but you should definitely explain your decision. Another option is to offer the child to "earn" this thing, for example, help with housework or grades at school.
You should teach your child to plan his expenses and save money.
It is necessary to teach the child to earn. Undoubtedly, it is not about making a child earn his own needs from the very childhood. You just need to teach the child that to get something to work. Let him try at school or help his mother.