Tweaks it , calls it with evil words. And in general behaves as boldly and defiantly as possible. This can be called childish jealousy or hostility in a sisterly way. The husband responds to your complaints with complacency, remembering that they and their brother also had mutual childish jealousy and competition - and nothing terrible, it went by itself. "Do not pay attention to her antics - and they will stop," he reassures you. And you and so simply are not up to such proceedings and heart-to-heart talks. Younger was born a tiny, weak, often sick. You, too, do not feel very well. I tried to explain it to the eldest, cause her to have some kind of human sympathy - like peeling on the wall. Children's jealousy still wins. A look from under his brows, eyes like a small predator, jerky: "And I did not ask you to give birth to anyone! We decided to solve it ourselves now and sort it out as you like. "
Over time , like, it all somehow really more or less smoothed out. The older daughter, who had become a schoolgirl, had new hobbies, a new circle of contacts - and she ceased to terrorize the baby. But sisterly love on her part never arose. You never saw her fussing with her sister, showing her interest and attention. Your instructions, if you asked to help in caring for a small, performs, but indifferently and carelessly. But in general, she grows quite a normal child, only how to save her from this hostility sisterly. The older the daughter becomes, the more acute the feeling of childish jealousy or enmity is sisterly. With what it could be connected - you do not know. Well, for example, they bought a younger phone (the older one has a long-standing one), so she started attacking her sister for nothing. Attempts to find out what is happening, do not give anything: "Oh, this is your beloved angel!". The youngest does not do anything to her bad sister, but on the contrary, everything tries to play with her, to make friends. But from the eldest she always gets ridicule, mockery, bad rallies and evil words.
Enmity in a sisterly way it turns out. Yes, it's sad now to remember how naively you dreamed of the friendship of two glorious girls and your women's solidarity ...
In any case, we must try to establish contact with the eldest daughter, which has long been recorded in "little robbers"! It now only remains to follow the assigned role. From the outside it is difficult to judge what provokes the "jokes" of her daughter. After all, no one sees that he allows himself an "angel" when there are no parents nearby. To stop enmity, a more subtle approach is needed. The first step to restoring a trusting relationship can be a trip to a vacation together. My daughter needs to feel her importance to her mother. And there you look, and the confrontation will wane.