This is not a scientific name is justified: it is soft and at the same time accurately describes the peculiarity of a hyperactive or too slow child. These qualities are especially bright at the age of 3 to 7 years, at preschool age. Unfortunately, there is no method of educating such children, nor separate rules of conduct with them. But in vain. Parents and educators have to deal with them as they are dictated by their own experience and situation. So over time, "shustricka" becomes habitual, that he is a hooligan, and "turtle", that he is always the last. So they grow up, cultivating in themselves an inferiority complex, while their guilt in such behavior is not at all. This is the peculiarity of their temperament and character, and only the last - education. It will be useful to consider each of these types of children's character in detail.
First you need to deal with the "little girls" (these are hyperactive children). With them all is not easy, especially for parents: such children do not sit still for a second, it is completely impossible to detain them on something, they are difficult to fix in time and space. Looking at such a child, I want to compare it with a moving piece of mercury, around which fall, fly and break objects themselves. The reasons for this behavior can be several factors: from simple stress and ending with organic brain damage.
Parents need to understand the main thing: it's not only difficult for them, it is difficult for a child to cope with his own hyperactivity alone. Psychologists who deal with the problem of hyperactive children, developed a whole system of practical advice to the parents of "Shustriki." Here are the main ones:
1. Be consistent and constant;
2. Try to always talk calmly and slowly;
3. Do not be frightened by your irritation or anger. All this is normal, if it is properly monitored. If you begin to get really angry, it does not mean that you have lost your love for your restless child. Just need to learn to separate the manner of his behavior, which irritates you, from his personality. Tell the child: "I love you. I just do not like it when you break your toys and throw them around the room ";
4. Try to avoid constant prohibitions and deterrents - "stop," "do not you dare," "you can not," and so on;
5. Be sure to provide the child with a strict regime and daily routine. Compose (better together with the child) a detailed schedule of sleep, food, walks, games, classes and ordinary household duties. Try to comply with this schedule, despite the child's desire to constantly deviate from him. Over time, he will get used to the measured, brought into the system of life.
6. Do not give the child all the toys at once. Give one or two and let them play enough, then you can give another one. If he sat down at the table to draw, let on the table there will be nothing superfluous, because the hyperactive child can not by itself cut off all that hinders him at the moment.
7. Given the increased excitability of your child, try to ensure that no more than 2-3 children participate in the game at a time.
It is necessary that the game arsenal of a hyperactive child contains different designers, puzzles, ordinary board games. Do not worry if the child is not able to immediately sit over them for a long time. Have patience and sometimes play with it not only in the ball, but, for example, in chess. Then eventually he will learn to play himself games for a long time. We often underestimate the power of a powerful incentive - the parents' consent to play along with the child. But in fact for this he will be ready to forget about football, and about running around the street, and about moods. Experts argue that, with proper education, a hyperactive child to twelve grows into an absolutely normal teenager.
Now a little bit about "turtles". About them, experts say not so often, because to a certain age, slow children, as a rule, do not bother the parents. They write off everything for age: they say, it's still small, it will grow, learn how to do it faster. Meanwhile, "turtles", this is a separate, very special type of character of children, in which the child needs from the earliest years in a serious correction - patient and everyday. Especially the slowness of these children is prevented when they are out of the house - in school, in the kindergarten, against the background of their peers, certain rules and games. Experts believe that these types of character form not only an innate slowness, but also a skew in the education of overly authoritarian and extremely energetic moms. So, what can we, parents, help our beloved "turtles"?
Already by the age of four years, you need to introduce the baby, for what hours and what is time. So you will form the basis of perception of time. The child will learn to understand what can and can not be done in an hour, half an hour. It is better to buy in parallel several different hourglasses. And often use them - during dressing for a walk, while eating or picking up toys. Always encourage the child in each specific situation: "Look, today you have already dressed for ten minutes, yet all the sand did not sleep enough! "Then the next time the child begins to correlate his sluggish actions with the real time. A great variety of competitions between children and adults also benefit from the topic: who sooner. Of course, adults will have to give in slightly, but the child will receive his portion of praise for the victory, for the opportunity to become the very first and fastest. Children - "turtles" are especially sensitive to their difference from their peers who ride a bicycle or play football. Because of their slowness, they prefer sedentary games. That's why they are already 5-6 years old well read and write. But the problem is that their thoughts are ahead of the movement. This creates problems in school, when the child knows how to do the task, but does not physically manage to do it.
As you can see, parents are quite able to help their "little girls" and "turtles". Just do not scold them in vain, but, try to understand these types of children. Create favorable conditions so that they can compensate for the peculiarities of their temperament and character.