What will people say?
It is this question that everyone aspires to himself who depends heavily on public opinion. Such dependence is unlikely to help a person in life, because then he will live it perfectly not as he would like. Who, in the main, influences the actions and activities of such people?
First of all, this is the parents. Many children, at a certain stage of their lives, are separated from their parents and go into an independent "life journey", the others continue to live in the parents 'house and the parents' mind. Perhaps, many are just too lazy to live on their own, and maybe, of course, these are complexes.
Secondly, many are subject to the opinion of so-called authorities, in the role of which can be both friends and unfamiliar people: employees, bosses, leadership of the country (it exerts its pressure through the media).
To Kslov, the dependence can be different - from a slight dependence on the expressed opinion of someone about your clothes and to a high degree of dependence in the plan for making important decisions. Excessive dependence can manifest itself in the most diverse forms and forms: from blind worship to authorities and before the transfer of initiative to making vital decisions in the hands of others (or considering the opinion of these people when making important decisions in life). To such an example, we can include as an example: blind following the fashion, the desire to avoid conflict situations in people, to all seem "good", the desire to give the parents the right to decide which university and what specialty to enroll.
The reasons for this dependence
There can be many reasons for such dependence on public opinion. Vosnovnom, they come from children's and teenage complexes, fears, as well as the habit of living according to someone's plan, the inability to make an independent and conscious choice. A consequence is the emergence of a feeling of constant anxiety, a depressed state, the inability to live one's life, passive participation in the course of life, inability to rejoice and constant pessimism. People who live under the pressure of public opinion are often afraid of even making an extra step, fearing condemnations or oblique looks from outside.
Very often, these are the children whose parents taught them that, for example, this is indecent for others, and this can not be done with people, but you can not behave in public and so on. It all cuts into the memory of the child and, over time, turns into huge complexes and fears.
How to get rid of public pressure ?
In order to get rid of pressure from public opinion, it is first of all necessary to realize that other people, in fact, do not care who you are and what you are doing in your life. Therefore, you should not act as you would not want to do, knowing about the possible condemnation of society. Perhaps someone will condemn your appearance, deed or behavior, but after about five minutes everyone will forget about it. Of course, we are not talking about actions that go beyond the bounds of decency or about criminal deeds, but you can commit the rest of your actions without fear of pressure from public opinion.
You have to work with yourself and your fears yourself or contact a psychologist who will help you with this. First, admit to yourself that the problem exists and adjust yourself to overcome this negative dependence. Secondly, think about the fact that people who depend on the public opinion are most afraid of disapproval from others. So, what scares you most is in this disapproval: constant obtrusive moralizations, criticism, quarrels, breaking of relations, slanting views and whispering or mockery? Having understood and said out loud your fears, you can gradually get rid of them.