Complexes never appear together with birth, they are developed throughout life. And some can disappear, while others can appear.
If the child has some kind of complex, it can be seen right away, with the naked eye. Remember that children will not share with you such valuable information as disturbing their complexes. They will keep it all inside themselves, the child will not share this with anyone. You must stop it, and avoid manifesting complexes in the future. Try to find out which complexes excite your child. Only do it carefully, you do not have to worry the child, or else you can run from a dozen more complexes.
If you managed to find out what kind of complex it is, then start doing everything so that you destroy this complex. If the child thinks that he is ugly, convince him otherwise, find ways to prove it.
What. If you could not find out more about her complex, then you have to work a little and try to get rid of all the complexes at once. How to do it, now we will tell you. Let's start and sort out the issue of "How to raise a child without complexes? "
So, if you suddenly noticed that your child is suffering from loneliness, he is shy, anxious, does not know how to express his opinion, if he is incredulous and can not express his hidden talents, then you simply have to help the child to overcome all its hidden complexes!
To begin with, you must give the child more love, you must show him that you love him. Everyone needs love, he needs someone to need it. Tell him that he is very dear to you, that he is the best son. It can be expressed in simple words, and with touches and gaze.
In general, psychologists recommend hugging a child no less than 4 times a day - it's not just that he feels good, it's necessary for survival, well, about 8 times a day - this is already for an excellent well-being. Hug your child as often as possible. Touching is a kind of connection with people, and you must use it with your child in any case. Touching will not let go of itself, do not leave the child alone or / and lost. It can also be noted that touches are delivered with joy, and also confirm the physical reality of what we still have. What about hugging is a special joy for parents, which will give them a lot of fun. But some parents go to the principle and do not embrace the child, believing that he is already old enough, and the time of "hugs" has already passed.
Yes, it is possible to embrace and use tenderness with children - this is hard for you, but through this you need to step over and show tenderness to your child.
Do not hesitate to show tenderness towards your child, he will most likely answer you the same, because he really needs it. If you do not give the child to show tenderness, then the fault will hang on you, not on it.
Do not take your child for any special reasons, take it for the reason that he is your child, that he generally has one. And remember, he is one such, unique in the world, even if the child has complexes.
Now let's talk about self-esteem, because it is very important in order to raise a child correctly. Self-esteem is very closely related to complexes. You must remember that people with high self-esteem will not be upset when someone criticizes them, they are not afraid to be rejected. But if a person has low self-esteem, then he will look lost, he will take seriously the criticism that comes from other people. Any child very much depends on the rewards that we give him. After all, you just think, how often do you praise your child? Most likely, it is rare, because you think that pointing to his shortcomings, he will fight them. Yes, it probably will, but it is unlikely that it will work out well, but complexes will be developed.
You must remember that the child is not a full-fledged person yet. When you point out a shortcoming, you will think it all over well, because you know well about your shortcomings, but the child ..., he is still too young and only listens to the others, but not himself.
At this point, you definitely need to ensure that your child feels very good, and nothing else. Sit down with him and decide that there is good in him, find absolutely all of his positive aspects. Starting today, start praising the child for everything. It's better to say: "I think you just learned this verse very well" than "I think you learned this poem pretty well." As you can see, there is a difference in one word, but the child will sensibly feel it and notice it.
But look, that it also looked sincere. After all, the child immediately notice, if you "fake", this will even more oppress him, which you obviously would not like.
Various kinds of comments we advise you to reduce to an absolute minimum. Do not forget that swearing does not lead to better results. He will just become worse if you scold him all the time. If you are very angry with him, then it's better to express dissatisfaction for a certain act, but not for him. That is, do not say that it is bad - this is the main rule! If you tell the child every day that he is lazy, it will be even harder for him to cope with his laziness, and this is a fact.
We wrote the main points. You can follow our advice, or you may not follow it, but you should know to get a child without complexes, it must be raised from the very beginning. Do not leave it all to the child himself, help him. And if you do not, then modern society will do it for you, but only in its own way.