You are ready to burst into tears just because of any trifle. When you wake up in the morning, you close your eyes again. So you do not want to start a new day! Annoy everything, even a child. And you blame yourself for this feeling, but you can not get rid of it. No, you are not a bad mother and the character has not deteriorated - do not waste yourself for nothing. You have a postpartum depression. Tearfulness, constant anxiety for the baby, sleep disturbance. Do not ignore these signals, but do not despair. Everything will come back to normal, though a little later. Now you need to understand the reason for this state and persevere and calmly work it out.
Stress and hormones
Any depression comes as a result of a serious test. For you, they became childbirth. You have successfully coped with the task, but spent almost all physical and emotional resources. Now you need time to recover. Why is this happening? During childbirth and in the first days after the birth of a child, you seem to be returning at the moment of your birth and experiencing stress again. In the subconscious, a "countdown" mechanism is triggered. Anxiety, fear and longing that you felt many years ago, returned. But the reason is not only this. In your body, now raging real hurricanes and storms. It's all hormones! During pregnancy, the level of progesterone and estrogen in the blood is very high. After delivery within 72 hours, their rates are rapidly falling. The amount of progesterone, the hormone that ensures the preservation of pregnancy, is reduced from 150 to 7 nanograms per milliliter of blood. The content of the so-called female hormone estrogen decreases from 2000 to 20 nanograms. It's no wonder that the body can not cope with such sharp changes and is set against you.
You can do it!
First of all, remember: postpartum depression is a temporary, not a permanent phenomenon. Feelings like yours are familiar to all mothers. Only you are a bit "delayed" in them. Make an effort on yourself, spread your shoulders, raise your chin and try to smile. You have to make useful changes in life!
Be lenient towards yourself. It's impossible to catch everything. Stop blaming yourself. Do not deal with what spoils the mood. Let other family members help you. Tell them about your experiences, tell them directly that you have depression and you and the baby need help. Do not sit in four walls. Yes, taking care of a little man requires enormous emotional and physical expenses. But try not to let fatigue. Sign up for fitness, shaping. You will feel how with each exercise the negative evaporates. Strengthens the nerves of the bath (with a cold purpose, juniper broom) or a contrast shower.
Try to calm down. Unpleasant experiences, both physical and psychological, are common after childbirth. Do not worry, everything will pass soon, and you will forget about this period.
Drink freshly squeezed juices
Eat grain bread, meat. Vitamins E and group B save from sadness.
Sleep as much as possible. Fatigue accentuates negative emotions. Try to rest in the afternoon. Still can not get used to the new regime? Connect your husband to night feedings. By the way, until recently it was believed that only young mothers suffer from depression in the lives of future parents. But the newly-made fathers also often become discouraged. However, girlfriends reasons. Male organism in this case is spared from hormonal bursts. Dads can be difficult to accept reality and get used to a new role. In addition, the man feels his uselessness. After all, all the thoughts of the beloved are now dedicated only to the child. Daddy, do not despair, nothing supernatural happens. Have enough patience! Understand that before you is not a capricious manipulator, but a tired, confused girl. Her condition is similar to yours, when, having accomplished a labor feat through "I can not," you suddenly find out that the real work is just ahead. You love each other, so, overcome all!
Give her husband the right to make mistakes
Do not criticize him for not being able to handle a child. For him, too, everything is new. You are led by nature itself, and with your help the beloved very soon will comprehend the wisdom of caring for the baby. Do not be angry, if not everything turns out as it should, the first time.
Give your adult boy attention. The baby requires a lot of energy and almost 24 hours a day. But you are able to do so that it does not hurt your relationship. Spend with your loved one as much as possible, talk to him, try to understand his problems and share his experiences.
Do not give up sex
Six weeks after childbirth, it is necessary to undergo an examination with a gynecologist. If everything is in order, and you have decided on the method of protection, you can return to a full sexual life. Be open and gentle: the proximity is necessary for you to renew the relationship.
Treat your beloved gently
Your wife, who only recently radiated joy and optimism, often cries, is sad and does not want to see anyone? Be affectionate and tactful! Listen carefully to everything she wants to tell you. Take care of her.
Tame your "ego". Understand and accept that now for your half the most important person in the world is a son or daughter. Do not take it as a personal insult and do not blame her. The desire to protect, nourish, warm little, is laid in woman by nature itself. Believe me, my wife did not love you less, it's just that now your baby has taken a huge place in her heart. Do not ask of her more than she can give you during this period.
Provide a beloved woman peace. Remember that she needs personal space and time. Do it so that at least half an hour a day the spouse could devote himself and only yourself. Reading, telecast, embroidery ...
50-70% are depressed in the life of future parents. If you ask for help in time, you will not need a special medication.