When a four-year-old says: "I love Sonia," and a 9-year-old girl sleeps with a portrait of some actor or singer, we just grin softly: what kind of love is in their years? Yes, the main feeling for the children is yet to come, although but it's just that you can not do exactly what it's like to laugh at the child, neither the kindergartner nor the schoolboy will like that you do not take his feelings seriously, he will be offended and never again and never will devote you to his heartfelt secrets Therefore, one does not need to banter over the experiences of a small lover, and uchshe try to help sort out his heaped upon him a sense. Let's see what the love of children at different ages and what can we do to adults.
With the analysis of love pereporschivat at this stage is not necessary. Attachments of babies are only formed and each day can change: children at this age are not yet able to fix their attention for long. The enamored Romeo today gives Katya his car sweets, and in a day or two he no longer departs from Masha.
But there are kids and the other love, more serious - the love of their own parents. Little boys dream of marrying their mother, and the girls - go for papazamuzh. If you hear such a statement, then you do not need to faint. This is a natural and normal stage of development. Somewhere by the age of five, babies are not usually wedged in between their parents.
Your actions in this period should be reduced to inaction. Attachments of children are not so bad at least, you are only hurting your intervention now. If the object of love ignores them, it's not fearful, in a few days they will find a new one. But falling in love with the parents is quite another matter: here you simply have to intervene. Kindly and calmly explain to your son, that he will meet his wife when he grows up a bit, and he has a beloved husband.) It's better for the daughter to have the family hierarchy explained by the pope, otherwise she can be jealous of him completely not even childish, and she will find it very difficult to find a chosen one. All applicants will not be up to her ideal - a beloved daddy.
Children's love in 5-7 years
Children at this age are actively involved in the adult world, as well as their feelings. Six-year-olds can rejuvenate, cuddle and even kiss with a target of their sympathy. But do not be nervous. After all, until this passion is still far away. And if your son is talking to a girl who likes to kiss "really" - this is not a sexual excitement, just that's how grown-up uncles and aunts kiss in. Though the affection of children at the age of five or seven can be quite strong. (watches, rings, boxes of chocolates, etc.) No, your child has become a thief in vain, but he just wanted to make a gift to a girl he liked. And where to get it? Yes, my mother. "The clock is dusting on the shelf, she does not eat sweets. to better find them the best application.
Your actions are included in giving the child advice how to approach the object of adoration and not fall into despair. Explain that there is unrequited love, but in life, there will still be a mutual feeling. If you doubt in the depths of his emotions, then becoming an adult, he will be afraid of love.
Children's love in 7-12 years
During this period, the feelings of the child to its opposite half-transformed. At first, love is carefully hidden. After all, if the younger schoolboy-boy is friends with the girl, then both of them will laugh. There remains only one legal way - to pull the pigtails, pour from the spray. Girls are offended, but intuitively feel that all this is simple. Younger schoolchildren (both girls and boys) are terribly romantic. Years to 12, it is getting smaller. Platonic feelings replace sexual attraction. Girls are late in this sense, and boys already understand clearly what they need. Fall in love with high school students, are interested in certain sites.
Your actions are included in cautious statements. Teenage love can be very strong and a person can carry it through many years. Help the child to accomplish mistakes at this age as little as possible. Did you quarrel with the boy? Tell me how to reconcile. If the son does not know how to attract a classmate, you can give him a couple of practical tips.
Children's love in 12-15 years
Teenagers love just obsessed. They wait for her, dream about her, seek and find. The desire to love them is so strong that anyone can be the object of their feelings. It does not matter that it does not fit the ideal. Rich imagination draws the missing quality. After all, having a girlfriend or a boyfriend at that age is a kind of test for "fitness." When you meet someone, you are respected. "Sidishia, who does not lose interest, learns physics is despised." If there is no girlfriend, many teenagers go into virtual space. Their head works only in one direction, and to say that ahead of the USE and it is necessary to do it is a waste of nerves, as well as time. The difference between sexual attraction and simply platonic love can be strengthened even more. , that they like one particular girl and the other simply, but the opposite happens, when the sexual attraction is taken for love.
Your actions are reduced to making you strong and cheerful. Hormonal blasts teenager just need to go through. In a couple of years, the child will "perebesitsya" and will be able to think already more or less soberly, but you can not hide the adolescents from the Internet and television. "Atam" enlighteners "more than necessary. We can not change the situation, then it is necessary to change our attitude to it. Instruct your teen's contraceptive, the consequences of unprotected sex. The child should understand that sexual relations are a huge responsibility and not only responsibility for oneself, but for one's partner. And to shoulder it on my shoulders before time is not worth it.
Less edifying reproaches and speeches, and more friendly participation. The child will trust you and make it possible to guide him in the right direction. The main thing is to try to become your closest friend to your child, and many problems will disappear by themselves.