Russia is very large in scale and the population is much higher. And in the same way in Russia there live not a small number of divorced families. Consequently, it can be argued that as a result of divorce, children remain without a full family. Most often in a divorced family father leaves and statistics show it. A large number of mothers remain widows, but why ?! Let's take a closer look. Each year in Russia there is a survey on the questioning of parenthood. More specifically, there is a survey of divorced mothers and fathers. For men in the questionnaire, ask, such questions, how often do you see your children? The answers in the majority are not positive, only 17% are seen, half are rare, and a third in general is not. From this we see that after the divorce, there are many reasons for meeting fathers with children. The same survey is conducted for women. They are asked this question, how often does your husband see the children?
And the answer is very critical, because for mothers this period is quite difficult. And the question arises whether to meet children after the divorce? Fathers answer this question in different ways, as everyone has different situations - who lives in the same city and who does not, who has found a replacement, and who has not found, and this is all obvious. It also depends on when the divorce happened, that is, the period is important for the child. If he is still a baby and in general does not understand anything yet, then divorce for him will not greatly affect, as he does not realize the loss or trouble. But if the child is older, that is, he already understands the importance of caring and caressing the father and mother, then the divorce will be deplorable. It also depends on the reason for the divorce, because it depends on the parents' meetings with the child. The reasons can be many: do not like family income, treason, sexual need, mental education, father or mother alcoholic, drug addict, bandit are all reasons for the divorce, and not all. At the mother after she was alone with the child, there is only one thought in mind: how to save the son or daughter from the father. Perhaps he drank heavily and manages, or he is a bandit who can put his family at risk. There are a lot of such cases all over the world, and from this you can not escape anywhere. A father after a divorce, or agrees with the mother about meetings with the child, or leaves for always, not appearing later at all. Divorces occur not only in Russia, but throughout the world. Almost every country makes such statistics. Also divorce can lead to a disastrous result that both mother and father do not raise a child.
This is manifested in such cases, when the father leaves the family, and is not going to see with the child, the mother has negative thoughts about the fact that she does not have to educate him alone, and decides to give it to his parents or to the orphanage. After such a result, the child does not see anyone at all. Of course, if he is small and does not understand anything, then if he grows up, his heart will not hurt so much if he were given in older years, when he understands all things and experiences very painfully. The child must see his parents. In the family, the mother is the most reliable support for the child, as she is ready to raise the child herself and yet inspires him, that the father was not a good and pernicious person, that he was, but already gone and will not return soon. Or the mother inspires that he was not at all and he is not needed. It is very difficult for a mother to think that there is no father and no support. A child needs at least one family member to grow up to be a normal and intelligent person.
To date, there are a lot of such mothers, and they do not give up and bring up their beloved child alone, because they live for the sake of children, and they do not need anything else. Fathers answer the question of whether it is necessary to meet children, in different ways, as well as mothers. If the husband started a family for the sake of children and wanted to educate, then he will say that it is necessary and necessary. He will earn money for the child and will finance his meals, clothes and studies. Such cases are not small. But there are other versions, that the husband was not ready for this stage, how to have a child, and the wife forced to have a baby, then it is obvious that after the divorce he will run first, because he did not yet understand what he needed and was not morally ready for paternity.
Another case where the father does not give the family enough time, that is, does not give it to the children, and hence the mother begins a panic and long conversations. And if after that, the husband does not understand, or rather, he can not quit his job, since this is their bread, then this is another push to divorce. In general, it can be said that divorce is a very difficult period of life for both parents and the child, and if the spouses do not live together and have spouses, it is best to see the child regardless of any conditions, since this is your wealth.
Read also: the procedure for divorce, if there are children