As soon as your friends, acquaintances or relatives applied to the registry office, they started the process of preparing for the wedding. The excitement around the upcoming event leads to the fact that all conversations in the presence of the bride and groom will be reduced to one topic. But if the bridegroom, as a rule, is more "thick-skinned", and it is difficult to get rid of him by some tactless question, it would seem that an innocuous remark, lost even casually, even by his own mother, can bring the bride to tears or tantrums. We will try to systematize the most frequently asked questions in order to avoid pre-wedding misunderstandings.
WELL, WHAT, YOUTH, WHEN WEDDING?
Before asking these questions, put yourself in the shoes of the bride and groom and imagine how you will feel when you are asked about it several times a day, or, referring to your own experience, they impose a good, in their opinion, toastmaster. Most likely, they still have not decided anything. It is better to wait for the groom or the bride to talk about it.
SO WANTS TO SPLASH ON YOUR SQUARE
Are you sure that you were invited to the celebration at all? It may well be that you are not on the invitees list. Perhaps, the newlyweds have limited finance and will invite only relatives and friends to celebrate. Can you imagine how the bride "boils" from within: "Dreamed, a goat!" Or something like that, when she, and in the presence of other "applicants" to participate in the feast, has to embarrassedly choose words to explain her choice of guests. Best congratulate young people in advance without hinting at your presence at the celebration.
UNUSUAL TIPS
Most often they are given by envious girlfriends. They are frightened that what the bride thinks is sweet and funny in her chosen one will soon start annoying her. If the advice is appropriate and constructive, any girl will accept them with gratitude, especially if they are given by a woman with a sophisticated life experience.
IF YOU FEEL THE SELECTION OF THE BRIDE - THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM ...
And leave your doubts with you. Comment on the difference in the age of the groom and the bride or relish the upcoming mesalliance - this is all talk for the sake of talking. If you are not a relative, your opinion will only be a red rag for the bride's nervous nerves. Leave young law enforcement, do not be burdened by their problems.
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO WORK ANOTHER'S COSTS
If the young themselves do not tell you about your wedding expenses, it's bad taste to lament over "thrown to the wind". Perhaps you would dispose of money in another way - invested in real estate or went on a honeymoon. But they are the accumulations of the young, they have the right to dispose of them as they see fit. Your comments can appear to the newlyweds unnecessary and offensive.
WEDDING IS A HOLIDAY FOR ADULTS
Ask the perpetrators of the celebration whether it is appropriate to bring your children with you. Usually, such events are supposed to be contests of adult themes and tipsy guests - the spectacle is not for young people. As a rule, the invitations clearly stipulate the composition of the family. If there are names of adults, it means only they are waiting for the celebration. If the family is indicated in the invitation (for example, the Ivanov family), boldly take home. If you are not satisfied that you can not take your children with you, reject the invitation. However, be sure to explain the reason, then your absence will be correctly interpreted.
QUESTION ABOUT CHILDREN IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE WEDDING - NOT EXACTLY IN THEME
You do not know about the plans of the young. Maybe for a while they decided to live only for themselves, perhaps there are plans for career growth, after all, it is simply indecent to ask questions of an intimate nature to young people.