Recently, representatives of the weaker sex have increasingly visited a psychologist. The most common question they ask is that my husband stopped wanting me, what should I do? He stopped loving me?
For some time it was believed that the reluctance to surrender to sexual pleasures - a truly feminine whim. And the fact that sex can not want a man - the most common phenomenon and you should not be afraid of it. We suggest to consider possible causes of sexual coldness of the husband and their solution.
The victim of morality and the problems associated with genetics
A man who was hit by a load of such problems will begin to experience difficulties in a sexual way. Three percent of men have a genetic predisposition to a weak sexual constitution and are not sexually active. Such problems can be a consequence of suppressing the sexuality of the child, because of too strict consanguinity. It also happens that a child grows in a same-sex environment. All this also affects his sexual development. Such men are capable of marriage, but they are always experiencing difficulties in dealing with women, both psychological and physical.
There is only one way out: you can not solve such problems yourself, therefore, follow the referral to professional doctors, such as a sex therapist or psychologist. The wife must help in this issue and support her lover.
Light degree neurosis
Sexual activity is influenced by many factors. By nimotnosyatsya: constant experiences in various areas of their lives, concerns about whether everything will go smoothly and whether there will be misfires, as well as the negative attitude of others. Before such a load it is very hard to resist.
Output: eliminate the factors that lead to the problem.
Difficulties arising periodically
Often it happens that the lack of desire is associated with sublimation. A man directs his sexual energy in another channel. The difference from a neurosis is that here a man does not experience negative emotions. Examples of such activities: the appearance of an hour-long work, a new hobby, the opportunity to carry out the conceived, for example, to build your own house.
Output: after you finish your activity, it will turn into its own place.
Age
It's not a secret for anyone that with age, a man is more difficult to transfer the usual sexual load. If at this very time, the partner will demand more from the man than he can give her, he may have complexes, and the man will do everything to avoid sexuality.
An exit: the woman should really estimate a situation. Reproaches, constant tears, can not change the situation. If your an older man, discuss this problem with him and find a solution to get around her.
Crisis in the family. Unwanted sexual desires
If a man has ceased to feel comfortable with his wife, he has a crisis. He reinterprets many vital values, sex for neugustrachivaet its brightness and spontaneity, nothing new, except for the same positions does not change, many fantasies have not been realized and sex is becoming increasingly rare.
Exit: Communicate constantly with a man. You think that you know everything about him, and you can guess any of his wishes, but this is far from being the case.
Many men believe that they can not show weakness and complain about their problems. However, it is worthwhile to understand that silence will not be enough for good, and this will cause the destruction of a once strong union.
Talk to the man about what he would like to change in life, what he likes and what does not please. Become for him a loyal friend and personal psychologist, to whom he can entrust all his problems. Talk about sex. Recognize that he no longer rejoice and take an active action.
Treason
The main signs that speak about the possible betrayal of a spouse may be increased irritability to your person, avoiding frank conversations and unwillingness to follow your wishes.
Exit: if you are scared to face the truth, try to conduct a prophylactic conversation with a man. Try to identify the problem. Maybe a new relationship, this is an attempt to escape from problems. And maybe a new love. What does he strive for, and where he wants to come? Proceeding from this, draw conclusions in favor of continuation of marriage or in favor of its destruction.