You stopped enjoying your favorite TV series, a fashionable new thing or a delicious dinner at an expensive restaurant? Do you react to all the jokes of friends with a depressed polite smile? The coming weekend does not cause joy? Everything is like that you were caught by the "virus" of agedonia: this is the term in psychology which calls for a lowering of the ability to enjoy life.
By the way, this is quite unknown to us the well-known depression, when everything is completely shrouded in black tones, and thunder clouds are seen on the horizon. In this case, it was not a black band, but a dark one. Yiwu you for this there are reasons!
Reason one: eto!
Your constant dreams of finding an ideal, as a rule, lead to complete disappointment. And you vainly "beat like a fish on the ice" trying to change something in order to idealize at least something that is quite far from the coveted image.
The diagnosis : "corn" happiness.
Symptoms : "Even a little, still a little bit!"
The main reason, so-called, joyless you are yourself: perfectionists who enjoy life do not exist. The more you try to polish your happiness to shine, the more your soul accumulates dissatisfaction and fatigue. As a result, all centers of pleasure are turned off, and at the same time, not only good building, but also a taste for life.
Treatment : Find a lost paradise (where everything and everything was perfect), many people try to stretch for more than a decade. But it's all unsuccessful. Do not waste your energy on it! Let's tell you a secret, being close to the ideal partner (suddenly you are lucky enough to realize this dream), you will simply be very bored!
The second reason: all the masts !
You always thought that by becoming a successful person, fulfill all your childhood dreams. And now you have fulfilled them and now what? How to live on and where to find the new meaning of your being?
Diagnosis : "tetanus" on the crest of success.
Symptoms : "How, is this all?"
All children's dreams must be implemented quickly enough: they are very accessible and concrete. But in the case when the "huge black jeep" is toughening in front of the house (option: Barbie and Ken have a cozy doll house), what else can you dream about? If a person remains psychologically immature, it becomes very difficult for him to accept new desires. Here you and the consequences of this situation - boredom, joylessness, dissatisfaction with life.
Treatment . One of the most common methods of treatment can be called shock therapy. For example, in the West, such a sufferer is put in prison for a week and, looking at the sky through the grating, begins to completely differently appreciate everything that surrounds him.
If all your own pleasures are tried, bring happiness to someone else. And you will surely feel this greediness on yourself.
The third reason: "terrible" words ...
Everything has come true to you, about which you dreamed, but anxiety leaves you on an equal footing and because of this there is not one happy day in your life.
Diagnosis : "Fever" due to possible loss.
Symptoms : "We are poisoned, the car is stolen, the dog is poisoned, the house is robbed ..."
The basis of such anxiety, according to the psychologist, is that we live in a country with increased uncertainty, which, as a rule, generates a massive psychosis. By the way, the one who really has something to lose, nervous most. And if you constantly sit and wait for tomorrow to be the "end of the world", then where do you get it, this happiness and joy from today's prosperity?
Treatment . Of course, for peace in the whole world, we really can not answer, no matter how much they want it. It is still possible to base our personal oasis of stability on us, because it is always possible to insure the house, the car, put money in a reliable bank, etc. Try to do this, and you will obviously ease your "suffering"!
Reason four: a lie!
Your career resembles a thrilling car-adventure film where you play a central role. But as soon as you begin to congratulate with success, you immediately throw a pitiful: "What is there to rejoice? Others in my years are already the director! That's when they raise me, then I will be happy ... "
Diagnosis : "delayed" joy.
Symptoms : "Well, how can one rejoice at life when the dishes are not washed (the report is not delivered, not ready, the course, etc.)? Here then ... "
"Then all then" are words that give hope and then it is put off to the far corner together with happiness from what is now. By the way, it can happen that such a "sweat" is already unprofitable for you.
Treatment . This sense of deception among responsible people can drag on for many years. By the way, the child never dreams of putting off his pleasure in the "far corner" until he folds all the toys into place and gets the coveted five in mathematics, and with it the praise from his parents.
"Now and here!" - this motto has always been the basis of a happy childhood. It is very important to carry through the whole life the opportunity to enjoy a minute of the small details of life: to rejoice in the sunny day, meeting with friends, a weekend and everything else that can bring peace to yourself. And to wait at the "sea of weather" certainly will not bring you much joy.
Reason five: pain
You are constantly accustomed to sigh about the fact that "you are not to be above you". You will never have a car like Olga, a chain of stores like Svetlana ... In other words, only your acquaintances have the right to enjoy life, but you are not the right person!
Diagnosis : happy "failure".
Symptoms : "It's fortunate for some to live like this ..."
Strange as it may seem, the main vital destiny of all the greed of the jivas is considered to be constant painful reflections on the magnitude of personal happiness in comparison with the happiness of other people. As a rule, greedy always suffer from bulimia of life, and envious people constantly dream of living better than someone else.
Treatment . It is well known to all that it is very difficult to be happier than someone else. So, after all, you do not need to do this, and you should live your life without looking at the success of others?
And finally, I want to add, such madness is nothing good, except for the development of a vomiting reflex does not end. Therefore, to ensure that such swamis do not happen, you are strongly recommended to go on a "happy" diet: to reduce the amount of portions of pleasure, and every event that carries joy and happiness "chew" carefully and for a long time! It is not superfluous to recall again one of the wise words of Bernard Shaw, who claims that optimists have dreams come true, but pessimists have only nightmares!