Take off the bans on love.
Remember how many times in your life did you hear accusations and negative assessments of your actions or qualities? For sure, not a little. Parents, teachers, friends and just outsiders do not spare our emotions when they try to convey to us some of their thoughts or claims. All these endless: do not bother, be quiet, leave, do something yourself. About labels: you are shameless, sloven, stupid. Does it help to love yourself? Of course not.
In addition, all the close people around us have some kind of image, which we, according to them, must correspond. Parents, friends, colleagues expect certain actions from us, and when we do not justify these expectations, they lose their temper. Remember - we do not have to conform to other people's ideals. We are all individual and have the right to be different, different from everyone.
Remember all the statements and phrases in your address that touched you the most. Think about it. Are you really such a slob, stupid or talkative? Most likely, it turns out that your home is pretty clean, you know how to do things and do not spend hours on empty talk. Give up the labels that other people hung on you. Let yourself be just what you really are.
Agree.
First of all, with yourself. Perhaps most of all - with myself. When you understand something about yourself that you like not too much, when you make a mistake, then understand - it's normal. Perfect people do not exist, we all do things for which we are ashamed, the consequences of which spoil our lives. It is important to recognize that you were wrong, but you can and want to fix something.
For example, you often wake up. Yes, it's a fact. But you try to do more work during the day and do not rarely stay after work time is over. You happen to be quick-tempered - yes, but you do not hide your emotions, you do not mislead people and quickly depart.
Look for everything negative is good, it must be there.
They praised themselves.
Be sure to praise yourself for everything that deserves praise, but such things in life abound. They praised themselves for trifles and for major achievements, do not forget to note a good complexion and a successful purchase, a finished project and will power at a visit to the dentist. You are the closest person you have, treat yourself accordingly.
Summarize.
If you think that there is no reason to love yourself, take a sheet of paper, where you write down all your shortcomings and all your dignity. It does not matter which part is bigger, it's important that you understand - you have a lot of beauty in you. Think about how many people love you and appreciate you. Surely, they have a reason, because unconditional love is, rather, from the realm of fantasy. If you were a terrible person, would you have had so many friends, would your parents and colleagues appreciate you?
Watch yourself.
Do not forget that loving beautiful and successful people is much easier. Try to look good even alone with yourself, even if you're not going to leave the house. Your appearance should please you, but do not overtake sadness. You will be satisfied with yourself as a whole and will easily accept your shortcomings. In addition, try to achieve success in everything that you do. Do not give up the chance of becoming better, more successful, richer, smarter and more interesting. Learn something new, learn, read, travel, take on new things. Do not stay inactive, then you will quickly begin to receive the results of your activities.
It turns out that you need to love yourself, but it's not as simple as it seems. We often punish ourselves too much, reproach for every little thing. We ourselves are the strictest destinies of our actions, and conscience does not rarely give us the chance to be satisfied with ourselves. But each of us is a unique person, in which there is much good. And each of us has the right to love.