Do you feel among your colleagues like Cinderella from a fairy tale? You think that their life is more interesting, does the boss appreciate them more? Enough! Stop worrying and start acting!
At work, you spend a lot of time, and it is only natural that you discuss not only professional issues, but also share personal achievements and difficulties. During the morning coffee, tell a friend a friend about family successes and everyday problems. Your colleagues brag and say something. Did you ever think, listening to their stories, that they all work out better? In response, you often remain silent. What do you boast about? It seems to be all right, but nothing outstanding. In these moments, you feel the prick of envy. You really do not like this state, because in general, no one wants evil. But they can not contain their feelings.
Where does this come from?
The main reason for envy is usually low self-esteem. If you do not feel confident and do not really appreciate yourself, then you constantly compare yourself with others, check your own worth. You see only their shortcomings. From your point of view, you are always worse than others. And who is suffering from this? Of course, you yourself. This state of affairs needs to be changed urgently.
Critical approach
Your colleagues, in passing, list the advantages of their children and partners in passing. Think about why they do this?
Work is a place where each of us seeks to show its best. And if your colleagues meet only at work, then I can tell you about myself and my family any fables, just to show off. Therefore, treat such stories critically. In addition, stop comparing yourself with others. In the environment there will always be a person who somehow got better than you. But understand, and he easily finds a reason to envy you! You do not know what the life of your colleagues really looks like. Perhaps the employees boast that their husbands earn well. But they do not say how sad they are in the evenings, when husbands stay late at work.
Well, the most important thing! Appreciate what you have. If you constantly think about what you are missing, you will stop noticing how much you already have. Focusing on the negative aspects of life, you lose the ability to rejoice. Look around! Is there really no reason to smile? Of course have!
Do you live with thoughts that colleagues do better than you do? The chief supports some employees, more often takes off communicating, jokes. He gives you only dry assignments and never speaks foreign matters. So it looks in your eyes. But if you look at it from the other side? It is possible that the chief jokes with others only because they are starting to joke with him. And maybe the boss is constantly trying to get your colleague into the conversation just because she likes him like a woman? Not always things are as it seems at first glance. You will envy the increase of your colleague, but in the depth of your heart you understand that they themselves would not be able to do this because they are not ready to work 12 hours a day at the expense of family life.
Envy on the good?
Think about what makes you unpleasant emotions. The employee is better than you? Watch her and try to imitate her or make a compliment and ask her for advice. So you also will win the sympathy of this colleague.
Envy, no matter how bitter this feeling may be, can awaken in a person the desire to develop. But if you, envious, do not do anything with this, but simply fixate on your experiences, nothing good will end there. Instead of studying the lives of others, it is better to start working on your own happiness!
The first step to dealing with envy is to pay attention. It is necessary to ask yourself the question, in what situations does it appear, to analyze with an apopt what feelings are envy in you? What pictures draw imagery? Do you see the image of another person who can achieve everything in general, and who appreciate everything? And how do you imagine yourself? As a rule, at this moment it seems that others say bad things about us.
Look at what's happening with a grain of skepticism. Understand, everything happens exclusively in your head. Envy is the result of persecuting vassopasheny and fears.