But when it usually comes to family relations, the concept of rightness, and even rights can be reduced to zero, or for a long time to be contested.
Long gone are those times when a woman had more obligations than rights. And even after asserting themselves equal in rights with men, the old stereotypes make themselves felt. Most of this is usually reflected in family relationships, especially if the woman is fairly compliant and not used to arguing with her husband. In such cases, with time, even when she has something to say, she simply does not have the right to do so. But after all, nobody canceled it, and this right did not disappear anywhere, it just so happened.
This is how the unhappy family life is gradually taking shape. And what's the matter, where do we make mistakes and how to uphold the rights of women in the family?
Themselves are to blame.
The model of the future wife's behavior will be very similar to her mother's behavior in marriage, adjusted for "good and bad." Therefore, often children become victims of strict education of their parents, and my mother's position that the man is the main person in the house, followed by the last word. On the one hand, it is so, and many still do not deny this state of affairs. But, in fact, a woman and a man are equal members of society, and in marriage no one can cancel this equality except ourselves.
Usually all family charters are negotiated and come back to normal at the very beginning of the relationship. If during this period, the rights and duties are clearly and at least adhered to for some time, and in the future they will become the rule for the family.
It is worth remembering that even a married woman, as well as before, has the right to freedom of choice, independent decision-making and action. She has the right to defend her interests, be independent and respected by her family. There are also many different rights concerning all spheres of family life, but about this later.
Usually putting on rings of fidelity, we ourselves cross out half of our rights, especially those associated with the notion of freedom. Thus, believing that we are making an invaluable sacrifice as a sign of our desire to create a family, to love our husband and give birth to his children. Although, in fact, such victims are not required, and are not mandatory. For example, when a woman marries, she tunes herself to the fact that now her life will change dramatically, and from the first day begins to diligently fulfill her conjugal duties, focusing her attention more on them than on the rights that her marriage gives. The wife is ready to take on everything that is only her power, and at the same time meet all the requirements of her husband. But she also has the right, something to demand from her husband, and to wish that the demands would be fulfilled. And then they are surprised when the husband, in response to a request for help on the au pair, answers: "what right do you have from me to demand something." So girls, take care of the young not only honor, but also their legal rights, and then it will be hard to continue.
The main right.
For women in the family there are two main rights that are closely interrelated. The first is the right to be loved, and the second is the right of motherhood. Violation of these rights most of all leave deplorable consequences.
A woman for the most part is an emotional being and used to perceive the entire world around her at the level of feelings. When a woman is loved, and she feels it - this is reflected in everything. But when a woman is forced to live in a family where love is more like a favor than a sincere manifestation of feelings, a woman very sharply feels a violation of this right and usually reacts vividly to it.
The right to motherhood is probably not worth discussing. After all, there is hardly a woman who does not want to feel this feeling. Violation of this right is usually manifested in the unwillingness of the spouse to have a child for no apparent reason. Facing such an attitude, the woman is very sensitive to this refusal. A special factor is not the recognition of the child, or the husband's requirement to have an abortion. Often this state of affairs can significantly affect the mental health of the mother.
Also, in the period of motherhood, especially when a woman is not able to earn enough to provide the necessary needs. She has the right to demand from her husband to ensure the well-being and prosperity of the family. Similarly, such rights of women, can extend to further family life, without the obligation to work it. After all, in the family, the man was the earner, the woman was the keeper of the hearth. Such foundations of everyday life are preserved today, the only difference is that the woman is trying to take on more and more obligations, and her husband in this zeal only supports.
The right to be heard.
Have you ever faced the unwillingness to listen to you just because you are a woman? Or maybe you know sharp and devoid of respect frazochki, such as "a woman, your day on March 8," or "and a woman here no one gave a voice." Such statements cause the most disgusting feelings towards those who pronounce them, and pity for their addressees. After all, no matter how sad it is, men in the family are used to taking on only a leadership role, rarely affecting the executive. So it turns out that a man - words to the wind, and a woman - a shovel in hand. And just try to object. For such a relationship, you can also thank our ancestors. After all, in many cultures, the perception of a woman completely discriminates her rights, to manifest herself as an equal member of society. If you carefully look into the majority of exercises for which I so strongly advise you to live, you can see one trend. What is usually a woman, is often used the concept of "must", and to her husband - is entitled.
So dear men, times change, and now you also have to, and women in the family also have the right. Especially they have the right to talk about their rights, to remind them and to demand their implementation. And you must hear and understand them. Otherwise, we will never achieve the proper understanding.