Already twenty years ago those who did not work, it was customary to call parasites. Today, fortunately, no one will think of condemning a woman who is constantly at home. And the reasons for this can be very different. But regardless of the specific circumstances, all householders, sooner or later, face problems associated with communication, loss of professional skills, low mood.
Pink-cheeked baby
This rosy-cheeked little chap, funny fingering legs and pens, has become the center of your existence. Always absorbed in endless cares about him. As a result, your only phrase, spoken for the day, is a short greeting to the husband returning from work. After a year of such existence, you notice that your vocabulary has drastically dried up and switched to specific terms like "bu-bu", "a-ta-ta" and "agu". During a telephone conversation with a friend, you limit yourself to simple sentences, and even monosyllabic answers "yes-no." And an unexpected stupor comes when, after being in a pleasant friendly company, you somehow can not support the conversation. And you have a fear of communication. You are afraid to blur something awkward and seem ridiculous.
What is the problem: Loss of speech skills and narrowing of vocabulary due to lack of communication.
Decision: Do not lose the old reserve of words will help reading classical literature or learning a foreign language. While the baby is sleeping, you will be able to overcome several pages of an interesting book.
And yet, nothing is able to replace live communication. While in the clinic or on the playground, look around. Surely there will be a lot of such mummies nearby, who will be pleased to exchange words with someone. It is even better to agree with some of them about mutual assistance and periodically "take" each other for a couple of hours of all the fowl so that the rest can sit quietly and chat over a cup of tea. This method allows you to kill two birds with one stone: while mothers share news, their children comprehend the first social skills of communication.
By the will of fate
Sometimes a person finds himself tied to the house not of his own free will, but because of, for example, health problems. A typical situation: a young woman was forced to spend two months almost without leaving the apartment, after she received a rather severe concussion. An additional complication was created by the fact that doctors temporarily prohibited her from reading and watching TV. The only connection with the outside world was the phone and mother, who brought her food after work. A week later, she felt completely unhappy and cut off from life.
What is the problem: Forced isolation and lack of communication.
Decision: The first thing to do is to focus on recovery and drive away all depressive thoughts. Perceive the illness as an opportunity to rest and gather your thoughts. Forced "simple" can turn into future victories. Organize yourself a support group. Do not hesitate to ask your friends for help. But they are friends to be with us in joy and in sorrow. After you ring all your friends, you will not have a hang-out from the guests. As a result, you will go to the amendment much faster than predicted by the doctors.
In free flight
"Why should not I work at home?" - this question is often asked by designers, journalists, translators and representatives of other "off-field" professions. And then comes the long-awaited freedom: you get up, when you want, you work when there's a mood. It seems that the day is infinitely long and everything can be done. But sometimes strange things happen in the life of a freelancer. For example, you sit in the morning for a computer to work, and later in the evening you suddenly realize that checking mail, communicating in ICQ and commenting on other people's blogs for some reason took all day. Closer to midnight, you have to arm yourself with a cup of coffee and work until the morning, swearing yourself and promising that "this is never again"!
The other extreme, in which free artists strike, is work without days off and holidays. When profitable orders are piled one after another, it can be difficult to say "stop." And people often simply "forget" about rest, communication with friends and relatives. He disconnects from the external life, ceases to be interested in what is happening around.
What is the problem: Postponement of affairs for later, lack of organization, the feeling that time is "rubber", or, conversely, the inability to draw a line between work and the rest of life.
Decision: The simplest thing you can do in this case is to periodically make plans. And the lists of cases should be both short-term (for tomorrow, for the nearest Friday) and long-term (loading orders for a month or two ahead). In addition, it is worthwhile to make it a rule to do urgent and important things first of all and not to start others before they are completed. This will avoid all work and sleepless nights. More often communicate with friends live, so you will struggle with fear before dialogue.
Homemakers at will
Happy owners of wealthy husbands and opportunities not to work at all, strangely enough, from all categories of housewives are psychologically most vulnerable. At first life seems like one continuous holiday! A beauty salon, a fitness club, chatter with a girlfriend in a cafe - that's the day gone by. But soon it starts to bore. The thoughts about their own unrealization come to my mind. Especially when looking at working friends, proud career achievements. As from under the ground appear stupid jealousy and an inferiority complex. After a couple of years of such a life there are problems with communication, family relations deteriorate.
What is the problem: Low self-esteem, inner dissatisfaction.
Decision: Think of yourself as an exciting hobby, so that when you tell about it, your eyes shine and your mood grows. On the one hand, it will brighten up your stay at home and fill your life with new impressions. On the other - genuine positive emotions coming from you, will attract and intrigue your husband. He will understand that you are not just engaged in housekeeping, but lead a rich, interesting life.
Dangerous profession
Scientists argue that women who are at home all the time at risk of developing asthma more than working. The main reason is constant contact with the dust and hair of domestic animals. In addition, women who sit at home with children are one and a half times more likely to have heart problems.
These are only the most typical examples of problems with communication. There can be much more. But thanks to the methods of combating fear before communication, it is possible to overcome any difficulties and again become a full member of society.