You live, enjoy the bright sun, drops of rain, drumming on the windowsill ... It's all right, next to a loved one, you are under protection and fully confident in the future. Iridescent picture, is not it? A beautiful fairy tale, and you believe in it, but why does this tale last for a while - until the time? Why does that one and loved one become another, a stranger, what is the reason? Today we will try to analyze the feelings of the wife, whom the husband is changing.
Immediately ask the question: "Maybe something is wrong with me, I have done something wrong, not so talked to his mother or did not greet friends?" You think, you suffer and you do not find the answer. Hasty thoughts swirl in my head, trying to drive away each other, but here is one, the most insistent, like an importunate fly does not fall behind. It turns and circles, it's harmful ... From-me-on ... Yes, yes, it's the most. No, this can not be with me, this just can not be! What to do? Cold sweat a little refreshing, but suddenly something heavy presses on the chest, does not allow breathing, the heart contracts, and bangs loudly, trying to stop from the sharp pain, fear. Yes, it was fear, fear for the future, the past remained there, behind this instant, and will never return. Pain. Yes, it is strong and merciless, ... It is these thoughts, often, spinning in the head of an offended woman. But is it worth it to be killed? I want to give a few words that I must tell myself, so as not to remain a complete nonentity, even in my own eyes, I'm not talking about the sidelong glances of my friends.
First, I do not deserve this attitude to myself. Treason has no justification, and no excuses are out of place here.
Second, I'm the most beautiful, attractive and desirable, and he ... we will not use strong words, although it would not hurt.
Third, I can live without him, I will be happy and desirable.
These phrases simply need to talk to themselves constantly, so as not to lose the last bit of self-confidence, in your own attractiveness and in the opportunity again to be interesting to the opposite sex. Even in those cases when it is really not right, when it's your own fault that the only and beloved person has become different.
According to statistics, more than 60% of husbands change wives. Psychologists, physicians and other individuals burdened with scientific experience furiously convince unfortunate wives that everything is normal, all men are polygamous, they are hormones, etc. etc.
But betrayal is the height of disrespect, rudeness, rudeness, permissiveness, sung by men, for which all women are divided into two categories: "bitch" and "chicken". It is clear that you want to know right away who the competitor is and how good she is. What was the one that attracted him, charmed her? She has longer legs, gorgeous hair, thin waist, she's probably a beauty or a top model? And now, another disappointment, it is - far from a model! How then, after this, one wants to take revenge on this traitorous traitor, but is it worth it to spend precious moments of your own, such fleeting, life on this useless person. In addition, it should be more regretted, because for the same omniscient statistics, it's just such brave men who experience a divorce much more difficult than women. (This is in case if you have to go to extreme measures and leave the traitor). Hence morality is clear - betrayal can become a positive impetus for further development.
Here's the turn! There are no more bounding borders, you have a clear "handicap," because you are better, cleaner, more reliable than him. And now, oh, a miracle! It happened! Already not everything is so terrible, the whole new complex world is open before you, everything wonderful is yet to come, you are absolutely free in your choice. And there really is a choice! You can forgive or not, you can get divorced or not, you can be allowed to be not ideal or, like before, to remain a meek lamb, anything that you like! The terrible is over, what now to be afraid of? You can go through life next to this person or already with another, who can not already cause so much pain. Change does not scare, because you know how to proceed. After all, you are not afraid of what has already happened, namely, the darkness of that uncertainty.
The course of the deceived woman has already been passed, and you, the most beautiful, with the best hair and make-up, in a new dress and hairpin, even try to change - he's worse, he will lose the only treasure that he has - YOU!
Feelings of the wife, whom her husband changes, it is better not to know anyone. And suddenly, your man does not really change you, because he does not want to lose such a beauty like you!