If you look at one side, then the betrayals are so widespread that almost every one of us met with this phenomenon, at least once in life, and most likely - repeatedly, and therefore treason is not perceived as something unusual. And on the other hand - every time there is a strong mental pain, you can not imagine how to live with it and create the impression that the world around you is falling into small pieces and there is no way to fix anything.
In this state, we are ready for any ill-considered actions. You will take revenge, try to find out the relationship or arrange disassembly. In principle, this is perfectly natural, because each person wants to quickly get rid of mental pain and decide how to live on.
Usually the decision made leads to a break in the relationship, although psychologists still recommend not rushing to conclusions. A certain period of time must pass before the state of some affect from stress disappears, and you can adequately look at the current situation and make the right decision.
From a psychological point of view, there are several possible reasons why men decide to change. The most common of them are:
1. The appearance of coldness in the relationship, when the love has already faded, but the habit has remained. In this case, it is absolutely necessary to calmly find out your relationship with the partner, dot all the "i" and try to stop this connection.
2. The emergence of problems in your relationship. In this case, treason indicates that your partner is afraid, as if the joint decision did not lead to a rupture and this is how he wants to hide from responsibility.
3. Search for mutual understanding. Perhaps you stopped giving your spouse enough attention and he felt the need to assert yourself.
4. The emergence of some internal problems in a person, contradictions, with which he can not understand.
Internal problems can be very different. For example, if a man is not ready for a serious relationship, or if he is simply not confident in himself, in his power. There is still a lot of reasons for treason, but in any case, there is no need to immediately break off the relationship. Although, in principle, it is better to focus on your own feelings and feelings.
We must seriously think about the question: but can you live with this? Can you, knowing about the betrayal of your husband, again learn to trust him and not throw out his aggression on him.
Treason is, above all, a signal that it's time to take a fresh look at your relationship, try to correct your mistakes and make positive changes in your family life so that the changed spouse finds in her what he was looking for in relationships with other women.
Psychoanalysts offer women who have faced the betrayal of their husbands and do not know how to live with it, to think first of all of what there is in a person with whom your husband has cheated you. Think, maybe you will manage to change yourself a bit?
In case you managed to discuss the current situation and understand together what causes your husband to change, it is necessary to change the situation for a while. Many couples who act in this way say with confidence that their relationship has become much closer than before, and none of them even ever came to mind to change again.
It is worth noting that if you decided to keep the marriage after the betrayal, then to preserve the relationship you will have to change both!
Julia Sobolevskaya , specially for the site