Often parents have a lot of disagreement about the methods of raising children. It is much easier to see mistakes of the spouse, and point to them, than to pay attention to their own shortcomings and fix them. Each of us is responsible for our children, for their upbringing, for what they have learned and what values will be their main. All that you put in your crumbs now, will necessarily affect their further life. In order to prepare the kids for their life in our difficult world, you just need to be patient, loving, understanding. So, today we have a small parental meeting - how to help parents raise a mentally healthy child.
Sometimes it is very difficult for parents to find the right method of education and approach to their children. Everyone understands that education includes austerity and gentleness, punishment and encouragement and much more that you understand only in the process of life. Immediately after the birth of the baby, the parents must agree among themselves on how they will behave with the children throughout their lives, discuss the principles of upbringing. You just need to find a common point of view. Take into account that the little man quickly grows up and soon he will have his own opinion on many questions. You will need to try to lead it correctly in life, while not breaking the character, develop self-confidence.
It is very important in the education to create a single team consisting of the pope, mother and children. A family simply needs trust between children and parents. From a very young age, try to communicate as much as possible with each other, discussing the events of each day, problems and joyful minutes. Straight talk brings children closer, making you friends. They should be sure that parents will always understand and help them, advise them and try to save them from trouble.
Praise kids for the smallest achievements, cheer them up in case of failures. Often press them to yourself, stroke on the head and talk about your love. If the kid is not right, do not rush to shout at him, or clap on the pope. Try to explain what the error is. Of course, most often you will have to repeat more than once, since small children are very inconsiderate and rather stubborn. But believe me, sooner or later they will understand what and how. And if you still can not do without punishment, then remember that physical strength is not the best of them. You can not buy sweets, do not give a look to your favorite cartoon, or put for a while in a corner. Remember one thing, no matter how much you are not angry with your child, never say that you are falling out of love with him or do not like him. This should be a real taboo for the pope and mother. A kid should never be afraid to lose the love of his parents. Encouraging should take an important place in the methods of education, so that the kid knew that having done something good, he would at least be praised. Often this is the strongest stimulus.
Do not buy the love of children with expensive gifts, do not fulfill all their whims. Kids quickly get used to it and stop appreciating. And obedience and good manners do not add to this. They become spoiled and uncontrollable, which can not lead to anything good. Love and trust of children must be won all the time, doing everything so that they respect you. This feeling will be carried by children throughout their lives.
It is also important that parents do not forget that your children are of an individual with their own opinions, which must be respected. If you clearly see that the child is wrong, then convince him of weighty, intelligible arguments.
Much more can be said about what needs to be done and what is not. In each family, this is decided together. The main thing to remember is that the basis of your relationship should be love, respect, understanding. And anger, aggression and cruelty must be eradicated. By our positive and correct actions we give an example to kids who often try to copy our behavior. And believe in your children, they are the best that can be in life. And love will tell you how to do it right.