Yes, that's such an honest guy. I came to you one day, and so on the forehead: "Honey, I have another! I hope you do not mind? " And it's good if you do not have a heavy frying pan at hand at this moment, because you can not do with a rolling pin. That's after your words (although it is not entirely logical to call it now "your" ... rather - "and yours too"), it's better for a young man to run, quickly and without looking back. And you will cool off a bit, remember for what real purposes you need a frying pan and think about this situation: if a man says that he has another - how to enter this, in fact, not a simple situation? After all, you do not want to go to ashes, lose your last nerves, turn gray and die suddenly of a heart attack just because this person, to whom you gave your heart, changed it to another heart. Or on another part of the body - I do not know the details, so I will not say for sure. But, in whatever direction your thoughts turn in this situation, I see only two outlets. The first of them is to understand. And forgive, I guess. To achieve, to war, in general - to fight back and not to give anybody else. The second option is to let go. To kick, to expel, to scratch out an eye for the insult caused.
Let's first see: what does it mean to you? For real? And does that mean? Maybe figs with him, sorry for being rude?
You, probably, now say: "My God, but he knows everything about me! Birthday, the color of my thongs, my favorite movie ... and he saw me in the morning, not made-up - and did not even run away, it's love! ".. Well, I'll try to fend off. Baby, does he know about your private dreams? Does he know how many kiddies you want? In the course, he, how to calm your tears, and more importantly - how to prevent their occurrence? Did he know you with his parents? You know, there are a million details in the world, which are, as a result, a picture of real happiness. Think: did he give you these tiny bits of tenderness and warmth?
In the end, betrayal, too, about something says. More precisely, she says a lot. Something is wrong with you in a relationship, something is not working out, not grown together. Perhaps you just tired him - and he found himself another passion. After all, men are so important to feel themselves as conquerors, predators, constantly staying in the state of hunting and searching for game, sacrifice. Maybe your man is just like that? Eternal wanderer, windy and fickle, and you were just his next catch? Yes, I say not very pleasant things, but our life is not fused sugar, poured in the form of a cockerel.
So, if you think about it, you came to the conclusion that, in fact, your relationship and the eggs you eat are not worth - then boldly call him and notify him that from now on he is like the wind - free and free to fly and inseminate even all the counter-flowered lawns . Do it beautifully and proudly, even if the cat is scratching at the soul. And they do scrape in any case, even if your cold-blooded common sense admonishes not to spend more nerves on this person. The habit is a powerful thing.
Now let's talk about the same situation: if a man says that he has a friend - what should I do if you really love him? Well, that's the way that you can not imagine life without it. You realize that there is nothing worse than being left without him, waking up in a cold bed and going to make coffee in the morning only to yourself. And it's not a habit, no, it's really love. What to do if from this new information about his ambivalent personal life, your heart is ready to burst into pieces?
So, tell me, how did he seem to you the moment he told you about the other? Was he upset, depressed or, perhaps, quite happy? This will predetermine the direction of your actions. Perhaps, that, another - just a one-time affair, a hobby for one hour under a box of vodka after your big quarrel? Maybe he sincerely repents, feels his monstrous guilt and really wants your forgiveness. It's up to you to decide whether you can find the strength to reconcile yourself with betrayal. After all, it's hard - a cunning memory, it can erase a lot, but will leave forever all the most acrid and painful. And treason, among other things.
You know, in what hell can your life turn out, especially if you are inclined to fantasy? So he went to work, and you already all in colorful thoughts about how he is met there now by a nice secretary in a short skirt and a blouse with a chic neckline. And now he could not resist her, and ... brr, what disgust, why do you think about all this? You understand and forgive? Or not..? In general, the direction of my thought you understand: it's hard to forget adultery, and not draw after her a constant paranoia about the subsequent betrayals of his men. Moreover, sociologists and sexologists say that those men who at least once went on betrayal, who then got away with them thanks to such an understanding and not a conflicting half, then again return to their exploits. Because they are completely confident in their impunity and in the fact that women can not live without them.
Well, the last one on my list is the vector behavior in the event that you find out that your boyfriend has someone - this is a struggle for the rights of a single possession of this man. The latter because it is, as for me, the most unworthy option. Although what do I know about relationships and about love? ..
So, you can compete with another girl in everything, so that your guy would appreciate your superiority over her. Take care of yourself closely, guide the marathas, update the wardrobe, go to the culinary classes. Get yourself a couple of fans who would demonstratively escort you to the entrance with bouquets of scarlet roses, and even in front of your boyfriend. And then you would have come to him and so, accidentally, would have thrown casually: "You know, dear, and yet I have another. And even the third, so we are in the calculation! ". Can you imagine what kind of wave of anger and jealousy you would raise with your actions? True, it is important not to overdo it. Yet this your two-faced man should notice that you are still bored and not interested with these fans. Then, if he really appreciates you and treasures you, he will certainly understand his mistake and crawl to you on his knees with a bouquet in his teeth. You can turn your nose a little if you are sure that this will only give the heat to his desire to return to you. And if you are not sure, take it with open arms and hang an audible device on it so that more of these situations do not happen again.
Although, of course, we want so much to believe in honesty and devotion of our men, in the fact that they will never pretzaditsya someone's ass and will not go to conquer this most ass to satisfy their male ambitions.