First time

The first kiss with a loved one, what was he like? Unexpected or, conversely, long-awaited, passionate or tender, like a touch of a petal, do you remember your first kiss? And who said that he should be alone? I'm ready to argue that now the kisses have lost that piercing sharpness of the first time, but why?

In life, I adhere to the precedent rule. If it has already happened, then there is a possibility that it can be again and again. If there was a magic first kiss, then it can always be repeated, there would be a desire. It is not necessary for this to quarrel or part, you can just imagine. And it is even better to agree and submit together. It's like a wonderful dream. By the way, this rule works not only for a kiss, for the first date, the first trip to the cinema, the first sex, it does not matter.

What depresses me most about relationships with a loved one is the loss of novelty. People tend to get used to and take for granted even the most remarkable changes in life. Yesterday you flew on your wings with happiness, and today you just shrug your shoulders: yes, there is, and what? And why? Was it bad when the head was dizzy with joy, when the whole world shrank to one single person? No, not bad. Moreover, we all miss this feeling of love, otherwise it can not be. Having experienced pleasure, everyone will aspire to repeat the experience. Often we do stupid things, we look for what's lost on the side. And instead of sighing with sadness or embarking on all serious, it is enough just to look at the one who is close, with the same eyes.

It's the same person who once made your heart tremble, remember how it was, learn to re-experience happiness from his presence and teach him. It is necessary to study it, but the spent forces are worth it, I assure you.

I will not say that it is very simple, especially in everyday life. To the loss of novelty, there are very specific and easily identifiable changes in each other's behavior. At the beginning of the relationship, we all want to appear better, kinder, prettier, more honest, but with time we relax. And it's not even in an old robe or family shorts. It's all about behavior.

I once had an experience. I looked at my husband not with the eyes of my wife. Not as someone who belongs to me, with whom I have lived for many years, but as a man with whom I just met and who I liked. I tried very hard to get used to the role. At the same time she herself noted that the intonation with which I speak, the reaction to one or another of his words, was changed involuntarily, even the timbre of the voice became different. My husband noticed this and was on the alert. Without even noticing it, he also began to behave differently. In a very good sense of the word.

In fact, everything is simple. When communicating, we provoke the interlocutor or partner to a particular behavior, in turn, themselves unconsciously behave as expected from us opponent. More often there is a leader and a slave, but the roles can change both during one conversation or meeting, and throughout life. I suggest simply for a while consciously and deliberately take the role of the performers on themselves.

If you still decide on such an attempt, bear in mind, it is not at all necessary that your efforts will immediately bring results, it is extremely important to be patient and not to leave the chosen path for anything. You can simplify your task by highlighting the changes in behavior. A girl, for example, change her hairstyle, hair color or pick up clothes of a different style, a man can invite his lover somewhere. It is advisable at lunchtime or after work so that you come to the meeting place separately. Although if you regularly dine together during the break, the number will not pass. The bottom line is to create an uncharacteristic situation for your relationship, it's the easiest way to provoke a person into behavior that is not characteristic of him at the moment and in the given relations.

In fact, everything is limited only by your imagination. Dinner at home with candles, a bed in rose petals, a bathroom with fragrant foam, a nice note left on the fridge or on the table, a small nice gift - any surprise will do. I repeat: there would be a desire and patience.

Dare, I wish you a thousand first kisses with the one you love.