Fight against myths.
To begin with, understand to yourself that no one can completely control one's emotions. There are no people who experience only happiness every minute of their lives and are never angry or offended. Of course, it's bad if you absolutely can not control yourself and boil over any petty matter. But, if there was a major trouble, you have the right to emotions, so that you yourself or others might not think about it.
Therefore, do not blame yourself for this. Better admit that you are really angry or offended, that you are upset or annoyed. The more honestly you will be with yourself, the more comfortable you will feel.
Hurricane without consequences.
Allow yourself to be different and experience different emotions - it does not mean to behave defiantly, spoil other people's lives and disrupt anger on loved ones and first comers.
Look at yourself and the situation from the outside. Perhaps there is no reason for your anger or resentment. Is this person guilty before you or are you just in a bad mood?
If the emotions are boiling, make a time - out, do not try to figure out the relationship at the peak of the indignation. When the passions are settled, you can talk and solve the problem. In the event that a person deliberately takes you out of himself, acts on your nerves and offends, stop it on the vine. And do not forget - some people like to play on other people's feelings and deliberately provoke others, be smarter and higher offenders and do not lead on provocations.
In order to save face and not to accumulate all the negative inside you, you need to clearly separate the moments when you intentionally hurt and when you wind yourself up. If the fault of the whole pms, bad mood, your depression, then in most conflicts can be contrived. In order not to feel guilty after another scandal, do not take your anger out on others, but do not let the others do this with you.
Relax.
It's good if you are a calm, not hypochondriac person. Then many troubles will pass by, and you will not even notice them. If you sharply react even to the casual sight of an outsider, you do not have to sing sweetly to the words thrown in the heat. Some, especially hypochondriacs, can accumulate offense for years, until it grows like a snowball and does not supplant all other emotions. To admit, such people do not live sweetly.
Learn to bounce back, no matter what happens. The faster you balance, even after serious quarrels, the happier you will be.
Analyze the situation when you calm down. Think about who is really to blame for what happened, how you could avoid conflict and how to protect yourself, so as not to be nervous too much. Do not regret what has been done, but lessons from troubles need to be able to extract. If the grievance does not last long and it causes you inconvenience - revenge on the offender, but only mentally. Think about what you would like to do with it, what to say and how to punish. Let this virtual revenge and become your liberation from anger.
When you are in the middle of the conflict, do not allow emotions to overwhelm you. Too emotional people often lose because they can not think sensibly. Master the respiratory gymnastics, breathe deeply and try to abstract from everything that happens around.
During conflicts, a huge amount of adrenaline is released into the bloodstream. This encourages us to rash actions. But you can get rid of surplus adrenaline peacefully, for example, training in the gym or watching "horror." This will help you calm down, replace one emotion with another.
If you can not cope with yourself, and outbursts of anger bring a lot of trouble to you and your loved ones, think, is it not time to visit a psychologist? A specialist will help you find the reason why you are controlled by emotions, not by reason and "include" a reserve of prudence. So you will learn to get rid of hurt and anger without harm to yourself and others.