In childhood, we are strongly influenced by parents, at school we are influenced by our classmates and teachers. And there is advertising, government. The list goes on and on. After all, life is an intricate tangle of all kinds of influences. The influence of a man on a woman is especially great in our life and vice versa - the influence of a woman on a man. The question whose influence is greater is incorrect, because it always leads to a dead end. And how does a man affect a woman?
It has long been noted that couples who have lived happily together for a long time are very much alike. Spouses not only have the same habits, preferences, they are even outwardly similar in some ways. Like a brother and sister. Who influenced whom for a long life together? Female? Man? There was a profound dissolution of one person in another. People say this: "find a soul mate." However, couples celebrating their golden weddings are much less than men and women who have lived together for a while and are rapidly divorcing, fleeing from each other. And the reason for such a flight is always the same, no matter what clothes this reason is used for) - not divided spheres of influence.
The remarkable poet David Samoilov has wise lines: "Everyone chooses a woman, religion, freedom ..." A man always, at a subconscious level, is looking for a woman who resembles his mother. To it he is accustomed and subconsciously tries to "educate" his woman, to "fit" her to the image of his mother. This is not about external parameters, but about the impact on character, habits, worldview.
The woman is also always, also on a subconscious level, looking for a man who resembles her father. And also seeks to influence the man, to remake under his own image. Here it is sometimes read what is called "found a scythe on a stone." The woman, defending her independence, fears such influence, is afraid to dissolve and, having lost her face, become a puppet in the hands of a strong man. The man, defending his "self", is afraid to become henpecked. If two do not have the wisdom of the world to understand what they want from each other precisely at a subconscious level, that is, there is no desire to "get into the skin of another", then the war of the sexes begins. In this war of the sexes for spheres of influence, there are never winners.
One psychologist expressed the opinion that the concept of "love" hides the pursuit of success and recognition .. To this, you can still add a chase for spiritual comfort. How does a man affect a woman to achieve what he wants? Male influence on a woman is more open, less refined and cunning than a woman's. By the way, go through the bookstores. There you will see a lot of books asking smart questions "How to seduce a man? 2, How to defeat an opponent?", "How to get married?" and the apotheosis of all questions "How to become a bitch?". Something did not meet the book for men "How to become a scoundrel?". All these aids teach a woman to influence a man: by cunning, caress, tenderness, flattery, flirting, tears, hysterics, in extreme cases - a faint and a threat to leave forever. In a word, all at once you can not remember.
The influence of men on women is more straightforward: flowers, gifts, compliments, harsh wishes, orders, leaving home. And actually, why such a straightforwardness? Cunning, flattery, tenderness are inherent only in women. By no means! The whole point is that from the very beginning the man is managed and led by a woman. From the first days of his life, a small boy is forced to behave the way his mom, a nanny, likes. After all, his survival depends entirely on women. But the years go by, and the boy realizes that he is different, that he is not a girl, but a man. And from here - an open protest against the "bows and lace" in the relationship. All human qualities of a man are not alien, but to use them in relation to women? Thank you! It's not like a man. Thus was born the myth of female and male behavior. And the influence of a man on a woman appeared.
All this "light and heavy artillery" in the war of the sexes for influence, for its place under the sun is used out of fear that the level of its own importance will drop.