The same situation, a man and a woman, even with the same attitude, see (perceive) in different ways. And different expectations from partners. And to convey to your partner your vision for an hour becomes unrealistically difficult. It is then that the woman is more emotional and shifts to screaming. Through the increased tone and the claim to show offense to powerlessness. How can you not understand! How can I inform you? Understand me, at last!
From time to time, a huge wave of irritation is being rolled around, which it seems impossible to cope with. And this irritation does not go anywhere, but instead accumulates. The voltage looks for an outlet, a discharge and finds it. Unfortunately, very often, in some sort of groundless in and unfair claims, which in turn cause reciprocal irritation. And a quarrel is inevitable. And only when two people without excessive emotions say their wishes, this situation can be avoided. Notice not the claims, namely the wishes ...... Dear, I would like you to put slippers in place, I stumble about them all the time.
Intentionally not to swear with her husband, that is, deliberately silence the emerging discontent is not the same way out. In the family, both partners strive to ensure that they are married, at least, comfortably. And if the simplest needs are not satisfied somehow with the comfort of personal space, then wait for troubles. Silent about your wishes, you give your husband the right to act as he pleases. And you expect him to guess. Do not flatter yourself. That there was the slightest chance that your husband will guess your thoughts, he at least should be a woman. It's minimum. By this, in order to avoid situations where patience is at the limit, do not tolerate ... Say without a complaint, but simply as information that you would like. This is the most optimal, shortest way to understanding in the family.
A great way to avoid the explosion of emotions, which inevitably follows a quarrel - distracted. Switch to an abstract topic. This does not mean hush up the problem. This is a way to remove unnecessary emotions from the issue under discussion. Having calmed down somewhat, it is possible to return to the question under discussion.
It is worth remembering that the husband is not an opponent, and not even an opponent. That in the first and the main queue is your favorite man, for whom you got married. And your time did not bother you with scattered socks, an open tube of toothpaste ... etc. etc. And your family is not a battlefield, where you must definitely win your place under the sun. Asking about the shortcomings of her husband, forcing us to quarrel this way, for a second, remember your not very pristine qualities. Each of us knows this very well. Your husband is also dissatisfied with some of them, and some consider it quite harmless, and even does not notice at all.
And in fact there is no need to swear at the husband or not to swear. The answer is obvious. With her husband there are many other activities, much more pleasant and useful. You will be pleasantly surprised, having tried simply more speaking about things that worry you. Men are so arranged to any complaint of the wife they have a counter question. What I should do? Do not torment your husband with guesswork. Help him and yourself. In the end, the wisdom of a woman is partly in the ability to make the home an atmosphere of warmth, love and mutual understanding. This is only available to a woman. Wisdom to you and love.