If you would like to marry to tie him to yourself and make sure that the young man will not go anywhere - I can upset you. To marry, this does not mean to get the feeling and loyalty of a person. As much as you would not want, but a man can not be bought, forced or tied. Even if you create such circumstances, when you can not just hint at him, but openly say that he should marry you, then even if you get consent, you can get not hatred but love. A guy will be a burden to be near you, and the relationship will turn into a real fulfillment of duty. Over time, he can repeatedly hint, or even say openly that, in fact, he does not need you, and he did as he should. Therefore, if you want to marry a guy and be really happy, answer honestly the question: are your relationship already so strong and serious? If you yourself can not answer this question for yourself and for a young man, try hinting to the guy, to have a non-intrusive conversation with him and find out what he thinks about legalizing relations.
But nevertheless we will return to the question: how to hint to the guy that you would like to marry him? Let's say that you see that he really loves you and wants to live together for the rest of his life. Then, it is necessary to understand why he has not yet started talking about marriage. Most often, the answer to this question lies on the surface itself and it reduces to the material. Many men do not dare to take such a serious step, because they think: I can not provide my beloved woman with everything she could wish for, because it's too early to offer her a hand and heart. Agree, because in their own way such young people are absolutely right. It's only in the movies that heaven can be in a hut. And, in fact, everyday and financial problems are often broken even the most powerful love. So you need to think about whether you can endure hardship, put up with the fact that much will be inaccessible to you, and still love and understand your young man. If you are at least somewhat unsure, then do not rush into marriage. If you love each other, the stamp in the passport can wait a few more years. So wait until both of you are on your feet, start earning enough to provide yourself with that family life that you have always dreamed of.
If you understand that you really can not pay attention to material problems, and the most important thing for you is to be close to an expensive person, then talk to him about it. Do not start a conversation directly asking the question: do not you want to get married, because we have no money? It is better just to talk with him about the fact that for many couples it is very important to be able to live beautifully and have a good rest, and if this is not, then the couple, respectively, too. But for you such things are not at all important. No, of course, you would like to live beautifully, but you think that from the outset to survive need is normal for any young couple. It is just necessary to work together, support each other, and then in a short time everything will be exactly as we dream. The main thing is to be together, to be husband and wife.
Such a conversation should affect a person. He will be able to draw his conclusions and understand that you really will not stop loving him if you do not get the material wealth that you would like. If you can communicate this to a young man, most likely he will soon make you an offer - and you will begin your family life.
What else could be the reason for the guy to pull with the offer of the hand and heart? In fact, they are not so little. For example, a guy feels that he is still quite infantile, so he is afraid to associate himself with something serious and long-term. How to act in this case? Firstly, it would be good to analyze your relations soberly and understand whether it is worth to marry such a person at all. Of course, love is a very strong feeling, but it fades with time, when you realize that it's impossible to rely on your man, because he has not grown, so he does not want and can not bear responsibility for his words and deeds. In fact, with this guy it will be harder and harder every year. If you understand that you still do not want and can not live without it, then you have two options: to make it change or to convince that you are ready to take on all the problems, if only you lived in a marriage.
How can you fix a guy? Of course, this is not at all simple, because a person has long been accustomed to live like this and does not want to change anything on his own. Here the main trump card can be his love for you. If you know what the guy really likes, put the question squarely: either he starts to behave like a normal adult man, or you leave. It is necessary not just to say this, but also to specifically explain to the guy what he is wrong about and how it needs to be corrected. It is necessary to behave in such a way that the young man realizes: if he does not do anything in the near future, you really will have to say goodbye.
If you are not sure of his feelings, but you do not want to live without him, then it only remains to prove that you can and will take everything, and he just needs to be close. Most likely, an infantile young man will quite arrange such a convenient option, that's just for eternal fidelity and true love is hardly to be hoped for. Of course, this option can not be called the best and suitable, but every woman has the right to decide what life to live for her, what to sacrifice and for what.