How to help a man to leave the family?

Sexologists say that people are polygamous. It does not depend on their gender. Apparently, therefore, in our days treason is not something rare. Although a one-time "leave to the left" and a permanent relationship with another partner are completely different phenomena.

Statistics show that today 50 percent of Russian men have a girlfriend on the side. Relations usually last until the time when partners have an interest in each other, as well as while these relationships have some sense for partners. Although the relationship can be terminated by one partner. Just one of them at a certain time ceases to be interested in their partner. If the relationship lasted for many years, then it is worth considering whether it is right to break such a connection. But, if the decision is made and this step is carefully considered, there are some recommendations to men who intend to leave the family. Especially if a man decides to go to a new woman, he will do it. Here it is necessary to do it as delicately as possible. Let's talk about how to help a man to leave the family?

As already mentioned, if the marriage lasted several years and was considered happy, do not seek to immediately break the relationship for the sake of a mistress. First you can try to preserve family ties. Of course, the lover was a pleasant breath of fresh air, all meetings with a young and charming woman are a real holiday of both soul and body. Think, if such a heady holiday will last from one day to many months, the holiday will end. Come on weekdays. Even the best mistress in the world will quickly get bored. After the holiday, just want to rest, home comfort and a cup of hot tea.

Men are and will always be selfish. Obsessed with the satisfaction of one's own passion and lust. So it's like what will happen to the wife and children. Fortunately, most husbands still care about the family and the future. They want to preserve their family and family. Therefore, planning a divorce and a new marriage, it is worth considering how far you can have the strength and money for a new young wife.

I wonder how a man becomes a lover? There are many reasons for this. Although all these arguments boil down to the fact that at some point a man needs support. As a rule, the mistress is younger, and the man evaluates the love relationship with her as an opportunity to return the lost. He wants to make sure that he has retained his charm and attractiveness so far, he can still seduce the opposite sex. Relationships gradually develop, and then everything becomes very serious and the man already wants to leave the family. After all, a new connection brings to life the men of novelty and drive, which have long been lost. Especially if the mistress allows him to do all that the wife forbids.

Before the question of divorce arises, a man can find a compromise. The presence in life of men of two sexual partners says that a man is a sexually strong partner. Naturally, passion is considered a common occurrence. Although over time, the passion of a man leaves, but the mistress does not. That's when the problem arises - the family or her. The ideal solution is to have a relationship with a married woman. Then a loving man should not solve the problem, get divorced or not. An unmarried mistress will sooner or later put a condition.

In general, is it necessary to help a man to leave the family? Starting an affair, it is unlikely that men are planning a divorce in the future. Even if a man decides to leave, he will prepare an alternate aerodrome in advance. Men do not go anywhere. He will first find a woman who can "shelter" him. Modern men get in touch on the side just because it's fashionable today.

Another thing is when a man begins to change only because of the desire to take revenge on his wife. For example, because of her betrayal or inattention to him. Thus, the husband tries to increase his own self-esteem, using a mistress. The times have passed when the moral and ethical side of this problem was brought to the court of the public. No party committee, and the court today decides the issues of divorce. Just parties will have to follow certain rules of the game. If a man decided to leave the family, it is better to first try to negotiate "on the beach." He should explain to his wife that it is better to disperse by voluntary consent. Who needs endless quarrels and sufferings or torments accompanied by tears. It is necessary to reassure the woman that she will not need a financial plan. Often the motivation for divorce can be the desire of a woman to have a child, but not all men are in a hurry with their offspring. If a man wants to leave, it is enough for him to say that he does not want to become a father. A woman deliberately can not abandon motherhood. If a man tells a woman that she is not yet ready to become a father, the woman herself will initiate a divorce.

The main principle of preserving the family is to keep all the treason in secret. So, if a man wants to leave the family, he must do so that his wife learns of treason. It is possible that the wife will forgive the traitor husband for the first time. However, the woman's psychology is so arranged that she will try to extract all sorts of details. Without a doubt, the betrayal of a husband for a spouse will become unpleasant and sick. Women refer to their second half, as if to property. There are times when, having learned about the betrayal of her husband, the wife herself makes the decision - to divorce.

If you even want a man to leave the family, he must determine exactly whether he is ready to leave his children now. It's easy to break even with his wife, with whom he lived for many years, but children can hardly understand the betrayal of his father. Later it will be very difficult to beg their pardon and establish a trusting relationship. Even if there was an adultery, you first need to try to save the marriage. You can use the services of a psychotherapist. To some families, the betrayal of one of the partners even helps, such a shake-up makes them change their behavior in the family and pay more attention to each other. Family life should not turn into a quagmire. One of the partners initiates communication on the side, so as not to "drown" in this quagmire. Therefore, the third in the relationship brings freshness. Perhaps divorce is not a suitable way in the appearance of links on the side.