Are you sure that the world without you will collapse. Well, if not all, then your nearest environment will not be able to exist, because all your relatives, friends and colleagues are without you as without hands. My husband needs to clean his shoes, write a report to the child, take his mother to the clinic, and colleagues to remind him of the birthday of the chef. You do not have a second of peace. And as soon as you release someone from the field of view, immediately you begin to be tormented - how is it without me? In fact, they themselves can cope, and you know about it, do not you? The problem is not in them, but in you. First, you think that they will do everything "wrong." And secondly, this is how you understand love and responsibility - as a constant worry.
What to do? Try to "delegate" at least a small part of your "powers" to others. Allow them to do everything in their own way and rejoice at their every success. Believe me, these positive emotions are much more pleasant than usual anxieties.
Pessimism is not?
You live with the feeling that nothing good from life can be expected. Even if today everything is going well, then where is the guarantee that tomorrow will not come trouble? And the best confirmation of this is your destiny. The first marriage was unsuccessful, the second seemed to be better, but recently my husband began to linger more and more at work, and how not to worry - what if this one turns out to be a traitor? The child, as he went to the kindergarten, was ill all the time, but how hard! Now he is in the first class - and suddenly again? .. And the crisis, they cut everything, the prices grow ... What should I do? In some of us, there is more optimism, in someone - pessimism. With nature, of course, it is difficult to argue, but all the same, learn to treat life more positively - in our power. Do not waste energy on experiences - find them the best application. When starting a business, think about where the pitfalls may be hidden, and do everything to not run into them.
Remember: in order to live with confidence in the future, one should not focus on bad forebodings. And consider fears and anxieties simply as hints of your own intuition - here it is, a dangerous place! So from the "enemies" that prevent you from living, they will become true allies.
In another palette
Or maybe your life just became too routine? And constant anxiety help you "shake up" and have fun? But why did you decide to use only black? Add light, bright colors - let gray everyday life play with all colors! What to do? To achieve this, boldly change the minuses to the pros. Is the husband late for work? Well, you have some free time to meet him rested, and even with a delicious dinner. Believe me, he will appreciate that his house is waiting and meet with sincere joy. And next time, maybe he'll put some things aside for tomorrow, to stay with you longer.
Psychotherapists of the American Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University found that many people taking antidepressants do not experience improvement. According to the researchers, this is due to the fact that the effect of such drugs is aimed at suppressing stress hormones and stimulating the production of pleasure hormones. Depression is not hormonal, so drugs are powerless ...
Observe the dosage!
The American psychologist Rollo May stated: "Meeting with anxiety can free us from boredom, sharpen our perception, it creates the tension on which the preservation of human existence is based." If there is anxiety, then man lives. " So in small doses, unrest will not damage: they, as well as jealousy, give the relationship some acuity.