By and large, this conclusion is not so far from the truth. Today, very often incomplete families, where the mother in "proud solitude" brings up her child.
It is sad that in many cases women remain in "proud" solitude. Very often a woman subconsciously strive to remain alone, she begins to fear a new relationship. The reasons for this fear can be several.
Psychologists have long proven that our behavior is very often affected, let's say, our childhood. It is no accident, the fear of relationships among many women appears on the basis of their childhood experiences. If a woman grew up in a happy family, where the parents loved each other, and the souls did not see in their children, then the woman would aspire to create just such relationships. She will not rush, as in a whirlpool with her head, into the embrace of a man, even if he is a beloved man. It's amazing what to fear a woman in a relationship with her beloved and loving man? Very simple. The fact that it will not meet the specified standards. The first thing, as a true scientist, a woman from a happy family, will consider a loved one as under a microscope through the prism of the behavior of parents, will try on his father's parameters. And if he does not fit them, she will not even try to build any relationship with him.
And if in a family where my mother was not happy with her dad, then what can women fear in a relationship when they meet their beloved man? Psychologists say that in this case, a woman is sure that she can not have a happy family. She does not even think that relations can bring pleasure to both partners, they can be easy and pleasant, but perceives them as an obligatory burden that she will have to drag. And that's why he prefers to remain alone, but not tormented.
If we follow this logic, then the woman in the relationship has only one way - in the footsteps of the parents. In fact, everything is completely wrong. As there are no identical and ideal people, so there are no identical, recurring even in the most insignificant trivialities, and ideal relations, psychologists assure. We must remember that we build our relations only by ourselves, by painstaking daily work. And then in a relationship with your soul mate, you can achieve exactly what you wanted so much.
The main thing is to know what you want from these relations actually. After all, if you ask any woman this question, she will certainly begin to list the qualities that a man should have, how he should behave in the family. As it was sung in one song of Soviet times: "So that I do not drink, I do not smoke, and always give flowers." And, if she is not sure that everything will be so, she will prefer to remain alone. The main problem on which women are afraid of a new relationship, psychologists say, is that a man is chosen as a new trinket in a store to please himself. Only own wishes and feelings are taken into account. With this approach, a woman is not ready to give in a relationship.
It is no accident that psychologists advise you to learn to accept life and others as they are. Such a life position helps in many situations. And, first of all, it increases the chances to build a harmonious relationship with your man.
There is another bump in the search for a new relationship. No woman stumbled on him. Insecurity, and, as a result, low self-esteem. Remember how many times you heard from friends, co-workers, just acquaintances of women the phrase like: "But to whom I am so ugly need, can I please at least one man?" It is possible to give 99% sure that these are single women, or Those who drag their relationship with her husband like a heavy burden, which can not be abandoned. You quit - you will remain alone, but one is scary. And new relationships start scary: where to find the man of your dreams, who do I need?
The way out of this situation has long been known. It was not recommended to us only by the most lazy psychologist - love yourself, start to respect and appreciate yourself. It's yourself, and above all, yourself. You look, and the others behind you will be stretched, they will begin to love, respect and appreciate you. And the relationship will develop.