You are offended and you blow your lips with a bow - anecdotes begin about those who are touchy and about whom they carry vodka. You are angry, you try to respond abruptly and you start to confuse the words - laughter. You can certainly sit on the sidelines and silently sip the juice, but in fact to feel like a hermit is somehow uninteresting, and why then do you want to get together with the company in this case.
But do not despair, even if you've tried everything that is possible, and it seems to you that, probably, it's just that people like you caught you and nothing you can do about it. In fact, nothing is possible in this matter. But! Before you get ready to change everything, you have to make one important decision - to determine for yourself whether or not you really want it.
The importance of this intermediate solution is not exaggerated, because directly depends on it, whether you can change everything. You can just decide "Well, I'll try to do something, but if something happens, everything will just remain as it is." However, in this case, you can safely do nothing. this is not the mood that will allow you to change. Oh, yes, you need to change. Because the reason is also really in you. And if you really have a desire to change everything, then you need to make a serious decision to do this and set a clear goal.
So, you're ready to change everything and not be more of a scapegoat for all possible jokes. I already realized how your listeners listen to your speeches, laugh with your jokes, and not with you, etc. Excellent! Then let's begin.
1. Do not work for the public. To work for the public is to say what you think the people would like to hear. Very often it turns out that they want to hear not what you thought. Then it turns out that you will say something that will be, as they say, neither to the village, nor to the city. Such statements lead to the fact that you get the impression of a fool, with whom you can only laugh. But you know that you said this not because you thought so, but because you thought that it would be like to hear others. It turns out that you have hurt yourself.
2. Try to write your own opinion on the topic of the conversation. You are used to the fact that nobody listens to your opinion, so you do not waste your energy on its wording. Much in fact it's easier to just say that the first came to mind without thinking, and then also get tired of the fact that you "as always no one listens." Even if the whole of your company has already become so accustomed to you, it does not mean that they can not get used to it. Therefore, start with the fact that try to think about what they say, and not about something extraneous. Try to follow the topic of the conversation and think about how you yourself treat the discussion. Only in this case, having a clear opinion, you can express it. If you want to relax, and the topic is not very interesting to you, then you better skip it, do not comment. Then you will not say rash stupidity.
3. Do not argue. Dispute is an ungrateful occupation . Especially if you really do not really care what your opponent will think about in a dispute. This is an unnecessary waste of nerves and time. But what is worse for you is that you will gain the fame of a debater, with whom it is not so pleasant to communicate. It is much better to come together each in his own opinion and not develop a dispute. And if your opponent wants to continue arguing, do not be shy to change the subject of conversation smoothly or even directly say that you do not want to argue. You can even just agree if it does not depend on it.
4. Do not be offended, do not be angry and do not be indignant. This will not give you anything good. And most importantly, there is no explanation of why you are doing this. If you want to be offended or angry, ask yourself the question "What for?". Do not confuse it with the question "Why?", Because you will find excuses for yourself a million, but you will not be able to think of the purpose for which you will do it. If you do this, over time you will not be able to get offended. If a person intentionally wants to offend you, then your offense will only mean that he has achieved his goal. If you do not take offense, then it was he who lost, not you. After a while, no one can offend you.
5. Do not try to say anything, just to say. Speak only when you have something to say. Speak only in order not to be silent, neither you nor your interlocutors need.
6. Do not make excuses. Justifying yourself, you not only automatically admit your guilt, but also as if you are trying to ask for forgiveness. So if someone wrongly accused you of something, just say that "everything is not as you think," and in any case, do not go into the reasons that prompted you to do so, unless, perhaps, you specifically about this do not ask.
7. Be natural. When a person behaves unnaturally, it is immediately obvious. This is unpleasant, because those around you subconsciously begin to feel that they are being deceived. And who will like it when they deceive him? Yes, and do you yourself always need to pretend? It is much easier and better for everyone to be appreciated for who you are. And for this you must first always be what you are; natural.
Follow these principles, watch how the attitude towards you gradually changes, and never break. You do not want to spoil everything because of one moment of weakness and start all over again? In addition, starting all over again will be much more difficult. And not only because it will be hard for you to repeat everything from the very first step, but also because next time it will be much harder to force everyone to change their attitude towards you. After all, they have already begun to treat you differently, and you will suddenly show them that they did it all in vain. And to again start to treat you differently, they will have to spend more time adapting to you new. So be strong and attentive to yourself and others, and everything will turn out.
All in your hands!