Each unmarried woman asked herself the question "How to choose a man for a successful marriage?" At the same time, live with this man for the rest of his days. Such a development of events was predicted for us in childhood, we set this goal, but for some reason it is not possible for everyone to achieve this goal. But many never thought that further development of some unfavorable relations with his "prince" could be predicted even at the very beginning of the emergence of relations.
What should I look for when choosing a man for a successful marriage?
- Start with the question of yourself - why do you need a husband? To have a family and take care of it? To give birth and bring up a child? Or have a reliable friend and a responsible partner close to you? So that someone in the house could hang a shelf or repair a faucet? And maybe, finally, to leave with unloved work and hold onto a strong man's shoulder? Depending on what you want, the image of the man that you need, that will satisfy your desires, will be built. Using your answers to such questions, throw a psychological portrait of the man of your dreams. Do not forget to indicate its main, distinctive features.
- There is something that you especially appreciate in men - supplement the main list of your future spouse with these properties. And attribute not only its psychological features, but also the requirements to its appearance, social status, origin, profession and hobbies. Be sure to write down! Formulation of thoughts on paper will save you from repetition and will make it clearer which type of man you need, even if you know perfectly well that you like tall, blue-eyed men in uniform. If it is difficult to imagine the contours of your desires, it will be difficult to determine what kind of person, your partner in life, who would like to link his whole life with whom he would like to go hand in hand all the joys and sorrows.
Recording on a sheet will also help you identify some contradictions. It often happens that girls give a strong, strong-willed and pivotal guy, while he must have a sensitive soul and an outstanding character. But nevertheless, many psychological properties are simply incompatible in one person, so it is necessary to determine what quality will be your main, necessary for your purposes, and what can still be neglected.
- So, you have chosen the image of a man whose marriage, you think, will be successful. Time to think about where, in what "habitats" it can be found. Business training? Society of film lovers? Fitness club? At rally tourists or paratroopers? Once you have determined the zone of action for yourself, start creating conditions for a favorable acquaintance with the person you have described.
- Found a candidate? Look closely, whether this is a man who corresponds to your compiled portrait - it is not necessary yet that you will approach each other. After all, it is important to combine your levels: emotional and intellectual, habits and lapping characters, moral values and life goals.
- At the beginning of the development of relations, many couples simply turn a blind eye to some "trifles", which can later turn into a huge number of problems and disagreements, flowing into conflicts. Therefore, it is advised to think carefully if there are doubts at the initial stages of the development of relations. Analyze: does the candidate fail to pass the "quality check" or do you not feel life with him, completely harmonized? Take your time with the choice, turn your mind.
- Whether you have chosen the right man for a successful marriage, you can find out by visiting his family. You will see how the relationship is built in relation to men, boys. How strong sex belongs to women, sisters and daughters. You literally look into the future of your family by observing his family. Live together - rehearse family life, but do not delay the conclusion of official marriage. If, of course, your goal is not marriage.
Watch yourself, take care.
And do not forget about your development. Maintain the body in good condition, look well-groomed, and the mood - always in a cheerful spirit, love life! With time, love cools, habits that can ruin and like rust, "eat" your feelings. Develop constantly, improve, do not lose interest in life and always try to please each other - that's what together with your common goals and feelings will help to keep interest and mutual respect for each other. So you prolong the life of your family.