Do you feel that you literally "boil"? Use simple tips:
- Get away from the situation that gives you discomfort. For example, leave the room, just do not slam the door! It acts annoyingly on the people around you.
- Moisten the whiskey and wrist of your hands with water. This will help you to "cool down".
- If someone argues and quarrels with you, do not throw out all the accumulated anger on this person. He understands you with a specific problem, do not burden him with his other difficulties. You better postpone the conversation for another time.
If, after all, the conflict happened in the presence of your child, follow the following tips:
- Talk to him. Determine the degree of mental trauma. Start from afar. Speak in a soft, soft voice that would put the baby to him. Explain that there is no guilt in this quarrel.
- Do not be too persistent in your conversation. If you feel pushing away from your child, leave him alone for a while with your feelings and thoughts.
- Cheer the child! Suggest a walk for ice cream or play a board game.
The causes of mental trauma can be determined by the following symptoms:
- closedness;
- irritability;
- frequent tearfulness (especially for no apparent reason);
- sleep disorders;
- nightmares;
- lethargy;
- the appearance of phobias.
Again, with the help of a conversation. The rules of the right conversation are described above. Just do not start with a sharp: "What's the matter?" Be softer. Ask about mood, well-being, assessments at school. Perhaps the problem itself will float out. Arrange the child to yourself with praise and compliments. For example: "You're good at what the abuser answered" or "of course, the teacher unfairly put you a bad evaluation, but this is his personal right."
Leave your negative and negative opinion so far with you. Saying "I warned you, now you have a problem!" Only exacerbate the situation.
If the cause of the disorders could not be ascertained, or if the child refused to talk to you about it, contact the teachers, acquaintances and friends of the child. Perhaps they know something or have noticed something that is not ordinary. But in no case do not leave the problem without a solution!
When you find out the most important thing (the problem and its causes), you can easily eliminate it.
Our advice:
- Reason: bad grades. Decisions: explain that evaluation is not the main thing; hire a tutor; talk to the teacher.
- The reason: a quarrel with a friend (friend). Decisions: the organization of their common outings; talking with a friend.
- Reason: the death of a pet. Solutions: the purchase of a new; establishment of guardianship, say, over the animals of a neighbor.
We wish good luck to you and your children!