Admit it, you also sometimes want to cry to someone in the vest. And in order to evoke sympathy from others, you choose a simple method: exaggerating your failures and difficulties encountered. In fact, you yourself understand that the problems are not so great. But you need attention, sometimes missing. And in this, in general, there is nothing terrible, if not overdo it ...
Another thing, if you dramatize and create phraseology all the time, about and without, spoiling life for yourself and others. How to learn not to take a trifle for a tragedy?
Leave the conjecture!
Often you make a molehill of an elephant simply because you are afraid of imaginary consequences that have not yet occurred, or may not come, but your fantasy has already drawn them.
Think, perhaps, you give the event too much significance, creating a phraseology, making an elephant out of a fly or misjudging it. The boss asks to go to him, and you immediately begin to guess, for which you will be chastised or even fired? Or maybe he wants to give you a commission or to thank you? Set yourself up on an optimistic mood, do not make hasty conclusions and do not come up with a fatal ending.
In the morning I got into a traffic jam, in the afternoon I received a comment from the boss, in the evening I quarreled with my husband and decided that life was not a success? Stop generalizing! It just was not the most successful day, but not the beginning of a black strip and catastrophic bad luck.
Switch your thoughts to something pleasant, except phraseology. Look at the comedy, go shopping. And best of all, find yourself an interesting lesson to distract - collect the puzzle, solve the crossword puzzle, download the favorite songs on the web.
Truth in the eye
But what if you really made a mistake and create phraseology at the same time? The scientists have established that we remember our mistakes 10 times longer than the victories. Scrolling in the head of failure, you are experiencing anew unpleasant sensations, increasing the scale of events. Leave the past behind! Do not panic and clutch at the head with screams: "Everything is lost!" Ask yourself: "And what, in fact, happened?" Speak the situation to yourself as if you are telling a stranger about it. By the way, you can do this in front of a mirror, looking into your eyes and watching the expression on your face.
It is impossible to cope with anxiety alone during phraseology - describe the problem to a friend or husband, clearly setting forth the events for phraseology from a fly to make an elephant. To talk out is one way to calm down, and close ones will help to consider positive aspects.
Do not cheat yourself with phraseology. Imagine that you are standing on the mountain or balcony of the 15th floor and you are looking at your "terrible" problem from a height. Is it really so great?
Do not divide events into blacks and whites. Learn to see the good even in the bad. Did not you get a prize? Well, you have a job, unlike the others. Sometimes comparisons are very helpful.
And remember, problems must be solved as they come in, and not with the help of phraseology. And it is better to calculate the possible negative consequences in advance and be ready for them, then they will not be so terrible.
We know how to express ourselves beautifully
When someone over-exaggerates the significance of events, we say: "He makes an elephant out of a fly." And do you know that this famous saying comes from ancient Greece and is first mentioned in the second century in the satirical work of Lucian (already at that time this expression was in motion)? But the British in such cases, say: "He makes a mountain from a mole group."
With a drop of pessimism
According to American researchers Manj Puri and David Robinson, optimists are more successful in business than pessimists doing phraseology. Success is explained by the ability of the first to make any decisions, including financial ones, in a more balanced and reasonable manner. At the same time, scientists caution that excessive optimism is also dangerous: it prevents a person from critically assessing the situation and often pushes risky actions. In all the golden mean is needed! By the way, for the positive and depressive mood is the same part of the brain ...