Together with the promises of eternal love and fidelity, each of the spouses also assumes responsibility and obligations, which from now on must be obeyed implicitly, otherwise neither peace nor harmony in the family can howl.
This also applies to the household duties of each of the spouses. How to distribute responsibilities in the family, while doing everything in time and right, which would then be painfully painful for aimlessly lived years.
The earlier the better.
Everyone knows that the family way of running a household in each family is different. The creation of a new family implies the creation of a new order that will be based on the models of parents' behavior, taking into account the interests of the opposite side. After all, you will agree, it turns out not honestly, when one in kindness sincere and in a fit of feelings takes care of everything, and the second only has to accept the fruits of the labors of his partner. After all, sooner or later the laboring party will demand a return, but it will not be correspondingly. Usually, the role of an honorary worker is assumed by women. Readiness for the sake of the beloved to carry any burden on himself, until then, enough strength and patience.
Therefore, to distribute duties and stipulate the order of household conduct. After all, life is the main part of our life. Otherwise, the faithful will quickly get used to your "myself", and sincerely do not understand the reasons for your further indignation about this.
"A woman must" and "a man in the house."
For a long time all the work activity has been divided into masculine and feminine. This division and economic and household duties of the spouses did not pass by. Based on the long experience of ancestors, you can still meet those who are genuinely sure that there are purely female responsibilities, and the man has not the slightest relation to them. Of course, education plays a big role here, but the proper arrangement of priorities immediately after the marriage, or even before it, will help to solve this problem at the root. Usually this opinion is more inherent in men who see themselves exclusively in the role of breadwinner and master in the house, in case of repair and construction work. Although in the modern world, the availability of a large number of diverse services, develops laziness in this area. But a woman should always and must. At the same time, the fact that previously a woman did not have the right to work was completely forgotten, therefore she was only engaged in home. Modern women have equal rights with men, they are successful in business, and in family life they can also require to distribute duties, and do homework from men. Especially if they have the same working day and not a big difference in the career ladder.
Dear ladies, before you ask, something from her husband should be taken into account, and the fact that throughout your bachelor life your faithful could, and have no idea about everyday difficulties and cares, as they were successfully performed for him by his parents . Therefore, before the distribution of responsibilities in the family, in the first couple have patience and perseverance. And do not be surprised if your first request is to take out the garbage, or to wash the dishes to meet with genuine bewilderment, and if it is done, then so it is, if only it was considered. Over time, if you can withstand the period of so-called "adaptation", the husband will get used to his new responsibilities, and they will not seem so complex and will enter into the notion of routine and norms.
A request and a reminder.
Young couples should take into account one fact that your one-time request, about something, and accordingly its implementation, does not become for your second half immediately regular. That is, it means that if you want, for example, that a husband takes his shoes off in a shoe store and does not leave his feet in the corridor, do not expect that after the first remark, shoes will always stand in place . Your first request for compliance with a certain order should be supported by regular quiet reminders, only in this case you can achieve the desired result. The main thing is do not translate reminders to the extent that they will cause anger and irritation.
Try to always distribute everything evenly, and organize everything in such a way that each of the married couple would perform all kinds of homework that you define as common. Only in this case you will be able to soberly assess the work of your partner and the question of who and when "overworked" will not be so acute.
When deciding how to distribute all household duties in the family, you can also take into account personal preferences. There are people who get a certain pleasure or sincere indignation when doing this or that kind of work. Therefore, if both spouses agree, some duties can be divided according to preferences, for fulfillment as they say on voluntary grounds.
Promotion.
Any work should be rewarded. No exception and the performance of household duties. For this, it is not necessary to post a price list to the refrigerator, and pay each other a salary (of course, this is also an interesting option), it is enough, just to thank each other for help, or the work done, to praise if the result of the work is positive, and to find for praise - in the case where not everything turned out well. Your approval and admiration for the actions of your second half will be the best incentive for repetition. After all, we are so pleased to bring joy to people whom we love and see their smiles, that I want to do it more often.
Thus, we can conclude that the main thing in the distribution of family responsibilities is mutual respect, patience and perseverance. Also, positive attitude and creativity will not interfere. Believe me, a little diligence and you will succeed. Love, respect each other, and always be ready to help, because helping a loved one is the best manifestation of sincerity and depth of your feelings.