If you are concerned with the question of how to get your guy out of depression, you first need to determine the root cause of his condition. To get the guy out of this state of detachment from this world, you should know him well and understand what can affect him positively, and what will lead to deterioration. It often happens that the girls, trying to get the guy out of the depression, make him worse. Therefore, in the first place, it is not worth taking as a standard of the situation from your own life experience. Remember that a guy can have completely different problems and a different level of psychological stability. Therefore, if you understand that you can not get him out of this state on your own, because you do not see the root of the problem, it is better to turn to a specialist. Only a professional can withdraw from the negative state so as not to damage the human psyche. But in this case we are really talking about a critical situation. Do not forget that depression is a disease associated with violations in the human psyche. And here we are talking more about how to help a person who simply has become uninteresting to live. As a rule, this condition is more far-fetched than clinical.
Therefore, to begin with, it is necessary to determine the main symptoms of the disease. These include:
- constant longing and sadness;
- Insomnia, poor sleep for a long time;
- a complete lack of interest in food and sex;
- unmotivated sense of guilt and own inferiority;
- constant fatigue;
- headaches and pains in the region of the heart;
- talk about suicide.
If you observe all of these symptoms in your loved one's behavior, then you need to contact a specialist, even if the guy flatly refuses. This is really a clinical case and you yourself can not figure it out. Moreover, independent intervention can lead to irreparable consequences. If the guy just sad and says that life is not interesting, but does not try to kill himself, normally eats and does not complain about health - then your help is quite appropriate.
So, first, we'll determine what the problem may be. More often than not, young people suffer from the lack of implementation of their ambitions. Agree, we all at one time dreamed about something, but later realized that in the modern world it is extremely difficult to realize. Someone experienced it quite easily, but for someone it's too difficult to accept reality, but he does not believe that he can change it for the better. Most likely, your young man has such a problem. To solve it, you need to convince the guy that he is able to achieve something. To do this, you need to motivate him to fulfill even small desires. For example, a young person has a dream of becoming a famous writer, scientist or musician, but he does not get to realize himself due to a number of different factors. In this case, it is necessary to turn his dream into a hobby, which he can do not for achieving material benefits, but for his own pleasure. In each city there are a variety of clubs on interests. Invite the guy to go to one of them. Let him talk with people who have similar talents, will be in the circle of those who understand him. Thus, he will have a feeling that he himself is interesting to a certain circle of people, and so not everything is lost and you can move on. In addition, when talented enthusiasts gather together, by common efforts they achieve what they do not believe alone.
Also, a young man can be engaged in social activities, which he will be really interesting. It can be anything: the organization of a concert of the favorite executor, matches on various computer or desktop games and much, much more. The main thing is that you also participate in this, showed interest and supported all of its beginnings. You can create something together, come up with ideas and ways to implement them.
In order that a person does not mope, it is necessary to save him from a gray and monotonous life. You must make sure that every day is new and special. You can spontaneously go to another city, organize a hike in the mountains with friends or just go for a walk around the city in order to open some new places. Your main task is not to make a guy, but to interest him. That is why it is so necessary to know all his interests and preferences. First of all, you have to choose what will bring pleasure to him, not you. You do not have to be intrusive in your motivations, and even more so you should never put pressure on a guy with threats and hysterics. If you do this, then, most likely, he simply abstracts from you or you quarrel. So do not impose, but offer different ideas. If you are creative, sooner or later they will start to interest him, and after the next sentence you will get consent from your young man. The main thing is never to immediately give up and tell yourself that you can not help him in anything. Try to just calmly treat his condition, but at the same time keep up, remind him that he's smart and good, backing up the words with stories from his own life that will surely be found. If you yourself believe that your boyfriend can really achieve something, sooner or later he himself will recognize this truth.