But the four-legged little friend is already at home, washed, fed and absolutely pleased. The joy of the child has no limits and it is impossible to describe it, it seems that now all the thoughts of the small inner world are occupied by his new four-legged friend. The kid rejoices, and with him adults, and affection for the pet is just as strong as the love of the closest people.
But nothing eternal in our life, unfortunately. The life of animals is so short-lived that, having not managed to get attached to it with all your heart and soul, you survive, the pain of unbearable loss, which, surprisingly, is very difficult. Probably, almost every person had a situation when they had to worry because of the death of their pet. Many, the last moments of life of a four-legged friend are remembered for many years, and especially if at that time there was not a close person who could comfort and support in such a difficult situation.
If an adult is hard to survive the death of a pet, then what about the child whose emotional state and psyche is much more stable than an adult. The death of a pet for a child is a heavy stress, and it does not matter who died a parrot, a hamster, a cat or a dog. Therefore, you need to know how to help a child survive the death of a pet.
Children all perceive and think a little differently than adults. If for a mom or dad Bobik is an ordinary dog, with a tail and four legs, then for the child it is the most faithful and loyal friend who will always support and listen in difficult times, and even play with strings or catch-up. Therefore, it should be clear and understandable why the kids are much more tragic and deeper experience the death of a four-legged household than we adults. And it does not matter how many years, months or days the animal lived nearby - just a few weeks to get used to Luce, Gaucher or Cousin.
But if all the same, the misfortune did not bypass you, then very important point is the support of your child, and not only in words, but also by your participation in the matter.
The kid should see that this is not only his grief, but all his relatives and friends. Unfortunately, not all parents can be next to their child in the difficult moment of the death of a pet. Many adults perceive the death of an animal as a relief - do not every week clean and wash the cage with hamsters or a parrot, do not wake up early to walk with a dog, etc. But, we need to understand that for the child this is a tragedy and a very big one, and he needs help to survive it.
A kid should not hear instructions and reproaches in his address at such moments. Do not in any case prohibit crying to the child. Knowingly it is considered, that it became easier, it is necessary to be cried. And it does not matter whether it's a girl or a boy, they are equal in this case in the manifestation of feelings and even tears. Some parents act wrong when a crying nine-year-old boy is told that men do not cry, and you should not cry. Of course, there are situations when boys do not have to cry, but the death of a four-legged pet and a friend is a clear exception to these rules.
Support for an adult is also needed so that there will be no problems in mutual understanding in the future. Quite often, children who do not see parental understanding, withdraw into themselves and stop communicating with their parents, can become laconic and morose. If this problem is not eliminated by the parents at the time, the gap between them and the child will begin to increase every day. Moreover, it will be more difficult to establish contact with the baby.
So how to help a child survive the death of a pet so as not to injure him?
First, we must bury a friend of the whole family and all family members should participate in this process. The kid should see that he is supported and understood. It is desirable for a funeral to choose such a place, so that you can then periodically visit the grave of your friend.
In the presence of a child, you should not blame anyone for the death of a pet - whether it's a neighbor or a veterinarian. The child should not experience aggression towards those who are guilty of the death of the animal.
The kid may have problems with his studies, he may become a bit unorganized and confused, but he should not be tormented by moralizing and scolding for it. To everything, even to bad estimations, it is necessary to treat with patience and understanding. The child, as well as the adult, needs time to enter again into the usual track of life.
Sometimes, you should divert the attention of the baby from the grief: go to a party, go to rest outside the city, give the child the opportunity to relax and often go out with him to the street - fresh air helps to relax and distract.
The best medicine is, of course, time. Although this is not an indisputable fact. Very many, when, already becoming adults, they remember the truly tragic and eerie events of their childhood.
Naturally, you need to think about buying or taking a pet again. And it is not necessary to have the same kind of dog or kitten, it is probably better to take an animal of another breed.
For information: dogs and cats can please us from eight to sixteen years - it depends on the breed; Hamsters live on average for about a year, at best, one and a half; parrots can live, with good care, about seven to ten years; decorative rats are about two years old and die mainly from cancer.
When choosing a pet, the opinion of the child should be taken into account. Do not impose your desires and thoughts on him, first of all you should bring joy to the child, and then to yourself.
Before you take your pet again, it's best to be prepared, especially if the previous pet has died as a result of the illness. Therefore, visit the library or consult a veterinarian about vaccinations, diet, etc. It is better to have some information, in order to avoid problems with the health of your pet and other unusual situations in the future.