To correct a child to school, sometimes parents have to use "heavy artillery" - from the promise to buy a new bicycle to threats to use his father's belt. Both, of course, have an effect. But he is short-lived and does not please either side. Knowledge is not received, the incentive to learn is uncertain, time is running out. What to do? That's what experts say.
How to make a child want to learn?
Currently, there are many methods of early development of the child. Parents are increasingly sending children to school with a "zero" of knowledge, they say, there everything will be learned. And the requirements for first-graders have changed. Now the first class is taken by trained children. Modern six-year-olds already need to be able to read and add and subtract elementary numbers. But does this mean that they are fully prepared for the school?
It often happens that parents tend to send their child to school as early as possible. For example, not with six, but with five and a half years. There are different explanations for this. Basically, this is done in order to have a "spare" year before entering the university or simply because of the reluctance to lag behind others. Like, "Tanya from the tenth apartment is already going to school. And ours is worse than that? ". It's amazing how such motives can later harm a child in life. After all, it is necessary to evaluate your child objectively, and not from the position of blindly loving relatives. The fact that a child knows how to recognize letters and take a little bit does not mean that he is ready for school. Preparedness, first of all, is determined from the psychological point of view.
Adults need to remember that the game - the most important at this stage of the development of the child. This is just as important an aspect of knowing the world as learning. Each child needs to finish his game before he is ready to develop the desire to learn. Seven years - the age for first-graders is not at all random. It is the most optimal for switching smoothly from game to school. There is nothing terrible and harmful for children in the methods of early development. True, only if the child is not forcibly forced to do this - otherwise you can not avoid problems. Interest in the school simply disappears shortly after the start of the first school year. Remember: being ready for school means not so much being able to read by syllables, as to have a sufficiently developed psyche, desire and ability to perceive new information. So before you instill certain skills into your child, ask him and yourself the question: "Are you ready? ". And it's not at all shameful to honestly answer him: "No, we better play it."
A whip or a carrot?
What to do if the child really does not understand why people are studying, and why should he study if he is not interested in it at all? First, you need to find out the root cause - it can be different depending on age. Secondly, try not to resort to punitive methods of fighting laziness. You can not instill in your child anything with tedious notations and a belt. But with a feeling of persistent aversion to school and study as a whole, a child may encounter. Not without your help.
Try to remember yourself in these years. What could interest you? After all, the main problem of adults - they completely forget what they themselves were in the first class. And remembering it is important to help your child later and instill a desire to learn.
How to teach a child to learn?
The most unbeatable, but also the hardest option is to get the child to learn knowledge for the sake of knowledge. Those parents who manage it are extremely wise and really think about the future of the child. They understand that every day the child must be ready to open the world to himself again. Now - alone, then - with their children. Houses where there are such families are filled with live communication - discussion of books, films, arguments and heart-to-heart talks.
A positive example. It is important for the child to see that both mom and dad learn all the time and are able to enjoy this, then he himself will want to imitate them in everything. Do not be lazy to develop a child, take him to exhibitions, museums, concerts, and always discuss what you see. Do not let the child's curiosity fade away - and it will be easier for the child to transfer this interest to study. In this case, this process will happen by itself.
The effect of presence. Doing homework with the first class together is common. However, it is not uncommon for hard cases when parents have to sit with their children for lessons, almost before graduation. This is absolutely a dead end option. By the end of the second school year, children must learn how to do all their homework on their own. If a child has poorly developed organization, he is constantly distracted - psychologists advise to create an effect of presence. Be close to the child when he is preparing, but do your job, only a little looking after him.
Material compensation - a good, though rather controversial option. But after all, study is also work, and any work must be paid for. This point of view is and it has the right to life. The size of the reward is better discussed beforehand at the family council. Let it be a small amount - you give the child money for pocket expenses. Why should he not earn this money?
Overcoming. Let the child learn to receive satisfaction from overcoming difficulties. Mark with him any most insignificant victory, praise him and sincerely rejoice. Let him feel what it's like to become a winner. Pay attention to how you assess children's successes: do not focus on the negative. For example, instead of "again for the control three received," say: "This time you started to decide correctly, but then lost a little."
Every child is sure that you need him more than you. Motivate him for training. He certainly wants to become someone. Explain to the child that knowledge not only brings joy on its own, but also leads to the realization of a dream.
Do not need to lisp with the child or scream at him. Talk with him as a friend - on an equal footing. This is the most correct style of communication, and it leads to the best results. After all, the main thing that our children need is communication. Warm, sincere and friendly.