So, most parents no longer ask themselves whether they need to prepare for the school with a preschool child. The answer is obvious: of course YES! Although ... In school, they will still teach everyone ... Let the child still walk. And if you start training, then how? What to teach first? Here are the basic doubts and questions of all parents. And as a result - mistakes, "puffed up" for which we then have to our children. What are the main mistakes of the parents of future first-graders? Read, find out and correct yourself.
It should not be forgotten that the teaching of writing and reading is the prerogative of a primary school teacher. Therefore, when a child enters the school, attention is drawn not to literacy, but to how successfully your child demonstrates readiness for teaching. It is necessary to take into account that our modern school curriculum presents the highest requirements to the level of knowledge of future students. But only parents perceive their children's readiness for schooling in different ways. Some believe that the child should be able to read, count and write. For others it is a great store of various information and knowledge. Still others believe that their child should be plodding, be able to focus on a particular case. Many parents take for the willingness of the child to go to school. Of course, each of them is right in his own way, but only in part.
In fact, readiness for school is a kind of "mix" of the child's physical and psychological development. Most of the children, according to experts, ripens to seven years. At this time, you can safely give a child to school. Formally. But the thing is that nature has no strict age limits. And the skills that are formed in some children by the age of seven, others are developed only to eight. That's why parents need to independently evaluate their child from different angles. And then it's up to me to decide whether to give it to the first class now or wait a little longer.
Normally the child is ready to go to school from the age of six. But only on condition of his absolute health. Health is the main thing for successful teaching of the future schoolboy. But, regrettably, many children have deviations - physical or mental. Almost 40% of first-graders get sick every two months, and get sick for 7-10 days. And this inevitably leads to missing lessons and gaps in knowledge. Such children find it difficult to get mathematics, writing, reading. If your child is often sick, do not rush into school, but be sure to improve his health.
Mistake No. 1. "It will pass with age".
Long before Andryusha's arrival in school, his parents decided that their son must necessarily study in a special school with in-depth study of a foreign language. Despite the fact that Andrei because of colds often missed classes in kindergarten, parents tried to deal with him at home with him, reading and solving logical problems. And very successfully, the boy was given much easily. He learned the letters and was already fluent and confident in reading the syllables, was able to retell the reading and remember the long poems. But Andrei did not always pronounce the sounds clearly and distinctly. Of course, a timely consultation with a speech therapist would help identify problems and start classes on time to correct speech. But the parents thought that it would pass with age. Meanwhile, the boy's difficulties were caused by copying elements of letters, numbers and patterns. And this indicates the lack of development of visual-motor coordination and requires psychological training to develop fine motor skills of the hands.
The results of the research are such that insufficient speech formation is a very frequent drawback, found in almost 60% of first-graders. It's not just about stammering and stuttering, but also about improperly pronouncing sounds, inability to distinguish sounds in words. Do not forget about the small vocabulary, the inability to make a story on the pictures and conduct a dialogue. Such children hardly learn to write and read fluently.
As soon as you notice any problems with your child's speech, be sure to start with a speech therapist. And remember: such children are not recommended for schools with in-depth study of a foreign language. In addition, some speech disorders indicate a weak nervous system of the child. Pay attention to whether the child is sleeping well, do not worry about his fears, excessive irritability. Does he have obsessive movements, does he bite his nails. If there are several of the above signs, you need to seek advice from a pediatric psychoneurologist.
Therefore, we can say that Andrei was not fully ready for school. But it is important to understand that the boy is not ready for the school that his mother chose for him - with a huge language load and overstated general requirements. In this case, it would be preferable to give a child to a simple general education school.
Error number 2. "Home" children.
Ira has already turned 6 years old. She is very cheerful, sociable, inquisitive girl. She spoke good and right, distinguished sounds, quickly memorized poems and even read simple texts. Plus, she had all the necessary ideas about mathematics and was very fond of drawing. At first glance, the girl was completely ready for school. But there was one "BUT": because of the constant employment of parents Ira raised a grandmother and grandfather. Irina did not go to kindergarten. In an effort to protect the girl from any problems and give her the best, the close ones of Ira were very spoiled and turned into a capricious, "no" and "must" child. Themselves not wishing, the grandmother and grandfather contributed to the emotional underdevelopment of the granddaughter.
At the beginning of schooling , the child should be well emotionally stable. After all, the school is not only lessons, but also teachers and classmates. Between classmates conflicts often break out, quarrels, and relationships with teachers are not always smooth. Children who are spoiled by excessive care and love, are hard at quarreling and resenting at school. And after they simply refuse to go there. In addition, "home" children are often absolutely not adapted to domestic life. They have a lot of trouble to button up their buttons, tie their shoes, quickly collect their things. Trifles, but as a result, the child will take a long time to tinker at the changes, late for walks, do not have time to eat.
Even in school, the ability for certain strong-willed efforts is extremely important. Instead of "I want - I do not want", the child must force himself to perform certain actions, and for a certain time. Such abilities do not come by themselves. It is necessary to educate and develop the will before entering school. This is facilitated by thematic games, assignments and the performance of household duties. And, of course, all the basic qualities of the emotional-volitional plan are formed in the children's team, in the process of joint play and study.
Mistake No. 3. "Good preparation."
Denis's parents very seriously approached the education of his son. In three years he went to the dance and the pool. And in four - in the school of early development, where he was engaged in reading, mathematics and a foreign language. The question of which school the son will go to did not even stand. From the age of six, Denis went to primary school at the gymnasium and, as expected, began to bring dozens. But in the second class, Denis had problems: to school - with tears, from the school-standing and broken. The teacher's complaints about inattention and inability to answer a simple question. And as a result - the decline in academic performance. What happened?
The most common mistake is the determination of a child's readiness for school, based on the level of general development. Thanks to television, computers, a modern child knows a lot about the world around him. In addition, they are dealt with practically from the diaper. Naturally, to five or six years of accumulated skills, parents seem to be more than enough. And often it is this criterion that becomes fundamental when choosing a school. As a result, children are simply not ready for more complex assignments and fulfill the requirements of parents and the school they are unable to do. Therefore, in order to avoid problems, it is necessary to determine whether such mental operations as memory and attention are formed at the required level.
Mistake No. 4. "And I want to go to school."
Vanya is 7 years old, and his brother Seryozha is 6. Vanya is going to school this year. A beautiful portfolio and a school uniform have already been bought, pens, notebooks and colored pencils have been prepared. And here, and Sergei is constantly trying on a portfolio and shows that he can draw no worse than Vanya. My parents thought: why not? The difference between boys a year. Let and go together to school, at the same time will not be bored and will be able to help each other. In addition, many go to first grade at six.
It is an unforgivable mistake to send a child to school, guided only by his requests. Often his "I want to go to school" means to follow only the external attributes of school life: to wear a beautiful portfolio and pencil case, to be called a student, to become like an older brother. In such situations, be sure that the child really prefers learning the game. Conduct an experiment: reading an interesting book, stop at the most interesting moment and ask what he wants more - read on or go play with the toy. If he chooses a toy, it's too early to talk about school. To go to the first grade, the child should prefer the book to a toy.
If your child does not know how to do everything, do it with him, do not miss the time!