In life, every day we make some choices, some of them significantly affect our lives, and some do not lead to significant changes in our lives, although each of our choices has its place in life. This dress or a car, an apartment or a new varnish is not so important, it's important that we make a choice.
We choose ourselves and our companions of life, or satellites of some part of this life. And facing a choice, you need to choose what you need and as you want, and not succumb to your memories and feelings. Follow your thoughts and feelings, be guided by sanity. I understood this again on my own experience. And so, how to correctly make your choice, when you have two loved ones, but different to you? How to make the right choice between guys who want to be close to you? It's especially difficult when both guys have a special meaning for you, with each of them you are connected with something special, or connected, but does the role play, in the past it was or is happening in the present? Does this influence the right choice?
In my life there was, in principle, there is still one beautiful guy. Blue-eyed blonde, with the body of Apollo. I liked him very much. And I kept wondering what attracted his attention. Five years we talked with him, then did not communicate. For five years, there was some inexplicable chemistry that gave inexplicable chemical reactions, from which we were drawn to each other, as if by a magnet. Quite a long time, we do not talk anymore, and I met a guy who blows off a speck of dust and is ready to fulfill any of my whims, within reason. With him I am very comfortable and pleasant, even if his appearance is far from Apollonian. I always said that a man should be a little different from a monkey, to distinguish it from primates. So I agreed, and now I realized that nothing can be said for nothing. In principle, appearance does not play a special role for me, because it is quite another matter how he treats you and what he represents as a person. What are the human qualities in it are especially developed. That's what really matters in a person, not his appearance. Appearance is just the shell of us, packing. The main thing is what's inside. Nowadays, for a poor-quality product or good, a bright, beautiful package is made to attract the buyer's attention. A good quality product does not need bright packaging and advertising. People, with a bright beautiful appearance, are mostly in love with themselves. They put themselves, their needs and desires, above others. And my former love to me once said "I do not need a girl who cries for every broken nail." In my opinion, the girl is already laid in the genes, in DNA weep for every cracked and broken nail, because we put so much power and attention into them, and then they break.
You are a woman, you do not need to adjust to a man, you need that man would adapt to you! If you break a nail, he should pity you, embrace and caress, and do not say such words. I will remember these words, probably for life. Or should not you give the past so much attention? You should not indulge his whims, but he is yours. Do not become a rag for him, because that's how you fall before his eyes. If you go back in time, it will mean that you are indulging him. Live the present.
And having recently called me, he said that he would like to start a relationship with me, said that he was attracted to me by a magnet, and that he could not without me. Offered to meet. It would seem that my dream came true, and I heard almost all the words that I wanted to hear from him. Probably, I even had something inside and reacted to his words, because in the past I was associated with strong feelings. They were so strong that we could not be together. Those memories that I kept, they tied me to him and held in the past. And, it would seem, these memories are able to awaken the former feelings to him again, but I have a current guy behind whom I feel like behind a stone wall. I completely believe him and trust him, and I am sure that he will never fail me and will not deceive me. Although I used to live by the principle "no one can be trusted." Is there anything more that you can want in a relationship? Confidence in your partner - is not this the most important thing?
Embracing him, I thought about the words and offer of my former, and for the first time in my life I did not want to change. I was so disgusted with the idea that I would trade this golden man who is ready for anything for me, on some kind of arrogant, spoiled boy's attention. Our feelings and attitudes to each other are so sincere that sometimes I even think that it's impossible. I try to adjust to him, and he tries to adjust to me, and so we, adjusting to each other, live in harmony. For the first time in my life, I did not want to contact him again. For the first time in my life, I did not want to chase the best, because I was sure that the best one is now in my arms. I knew that I was in the arms of the best. After all, life we pursue the best, changing our partners like gloves. Just think, "but my love," we immediately turn our attention to another guy, and we start to think, "Is not this my love, maybe I was wrong." All our lives we are afraid to associate our lives with the wrong person, all our lives we are afraid to miss the best. For the first time in my life I was sure of my choice.
Perhaps this is what love looks like. Probably, so make the right choice, as I did in this case. The main thing is that you are confident in your partner, and most importantly, that you do not want to seek another love. Probably, this is love - when you do not want to eat the forbidden fruit, but you want to be just next to him, and always miss him, when all the same he is not around. Do not become prisoners of the past. The past will never become the present and the future, the present can become your future. Do not live with memories, and do not pursue illusions, choose reliability and loving, and love it. Choose the present to make a good future out of it! And the past will pull you back and forth. If he stayed in the past there is a place for him. Do not bring it out to the present.