Boys and girls differ from each other from birth - and not only appearance, but also character. And although they realize this at the age of about three years, typical for the sex signs appear much earlier. Of course, this does not mean that the son and daughter demand absolutely different attitudes. All babies, regardless of gender, need the love of parents, tenderness and care. But there are some differences in upbringing. And you need to know how to properly educate a real lady.
Understand her rebellion.
Did you notice that adults are more critical of the girl's bad deeds than of the similar behavior of the boy? This is because they are subconsciously oriented to the fact that the girl will be more obedient, quiet and modest. There is a false opinion that such obstinacy peculiar to boys in girls is nothing more than a bad upbringing. But the kids of both sexes at the age of about two years are experiencing, the so-called period of rebellion. When your daughter starts to answer all your questions and suggestions stubbornly answer "no", run away to the other side after you call her or throw your favorite book on the floor, do not get angry, and do not rush to punish her. Do not try to resolve the situation by shouting and increasing the number of prohibitions. Remember that protest for the baby is the best way to declare your personality. You in such a situation need to be consistent and clearly define the limits of the permissible. The child should know in which cases you will never go for any concessions.
Do not follow stereotypes.
Do not impose strict restrictions on the rules of behavior of the daughter just because she is a girl. Many parents do this unconsciously, yielding to the stereotype that girls are weaker and more tender. It is for this reason that little ladies hear phrases like "Do not touch, or you will cripple" more often than gentlemen, "Do not run, or you will fall", "Do not go there, it's dangerous there." Such comments can cause the child to fear everything new and unknown, to discourage interest in knowing. Therefore, your task is to stimulate the interest of the little girl, to notice all her discoveries, to praise for the slightest successes.
Take care of comfort.
Girls sense organs are better developed than boys: they hear, smell, distinguish colors more sensitively and subtly. Therefore, small representatives of the fair sex are less tolerated by such inconveniences as a wet diaper or noise outside the window. But your little princess will surely enjoy great quiet music, a recording with the sounds of nature, your singing. Massage after bathing and gentle stroking before going to bed will please her more than the boy.
Be careful with words.
In the education of a real lady, it is important not only care and care that you surround the little girl, but also the words that you tell her. They form the picture of the world of the girl and determine its place in it, open new horizons or, on the contrary, limit the perception of reality. So try not to say the following phrases: "Girls do not behave this way", "Girls should not." After all, assess the behavior of the child should be without regard to the sex. Speak as many words of love as possible. But remember that words alone are not enough. It is necessary to show love to my daughter by my actions.
- Give your baby as much attention as possible.
- Since birth, talk to her, often carry on your hands, hug, kiss.
- Be sure to respond to crying. Knowing that mom will come to the rescue when the baby is badly attached to security and confidence.
- Do not remain indifferent to her successes. Do not be mean to praise.
- Listen to her opinion, respect him.
- Bad behavior try to correct gently - without shouts and slaps.
But this does not mean that if you have a son, then it must be somehow different to show your love. All children equally need maternal affection, tenderness and love.
Offer different toys.
Girls tend to prefer dolls, because the female brain is programmed to care for children. But sometimes they play with great interest cars, railroad, construction tools. There is nothing wrong. Thanks to such games, the little girl tries herself in new roles, learns something new, gets an important and interesting experience.
Do not judge too severely.
Even in the most unpleasant situations, try to control yourself and never tell your daughter that she is inept, shy, or rude. Girls take the appreciation of others very much to heart. Especially if it comes from a beloved mother. The reaction to gross reproaches can be different complexes, in a more mature age, which will poison the life of a young lady. Calmly explain how you need to behave, and how to properly do this or that situation.
Remember that your upbringing is a solid platform of yours with her relationships in the future.