Today, unfortunately, "modern youth" is self-willed, proud, disobedient to parents, not respectful of the elderly, unable to work, appreciating only money. With horror looking at such youth, every loving mother wonders how to make a good person out of a child? How to raise a child good?
"To bring up kindness in a child" is simple and at the same time not easy, but every parent can do it, only some effort is needed.
The very word "kindness" has a generalized concept, just like the word "happiness". One person is happy having conquered the summit of Everest, the other is happy having bought an apartment or a car, the third is happy simply becoming a dad.
For one person, caring for parents is kindness, for another kindness is bounty to friends, for the third - to make from their apartment a shelter for stray dogs and cats. As we see everything is different and have their limits and criteria.
Proceeding from this, the caring parent, first of all, needs to make specific and for himself personally determine what the phrase "good man" means to him. Make a reminder for yourself, writing down your conclusions.
A responsible and caring parent should understand that children between the ages of one to five do not do what they are told in words, but repeat the actions of their parents. This period for parents is good, because they are unquestionable and absolute authority for their child, so they can greatly affect the behavior of the child. Therefore, you just need to become a "standard of kindness" for your child. However, it should be remembered that there will come a time when peers and idols will become the authority for your child, and your authority will go to the background, so it is worth every effort and yourself to meet the standards that you bring up in your child.
Every parent who pursues the goal of raising a good child should remember that there is no need to encourage childish egoism, which is a characteristic feature of every child. Also, the child does not need to be taught to give permanent gifts. Permanent gifts are a kind of "sick syndrome", which is often observed in those parents who see their child very rarely, as they work hard and pay attention to the child with toys and other gifts. Worst of all, when the presentation of the gift is accompanied by the following phrases: "Look what your mother brought you! Mom loves you very much! "Or" Run faster to dad and see what he bought you! ".
If you love your child, it is important to instill in him the principle - to give gifts is always more pleasant than getting. It is rather difficult to instill this principle, since most of the children are focused only on themselves, on their desires, so the phrase "this is for you, take it or I give it to you" sounds more melodic and more pleasing to them than the word "give to another or give it." If you decide to buy your child an expensive toy, you can negotiate with him, give something to another child and not necessarily a friend. It can be a neighbor's child, a child from a low-income family, a child playing in the playground. It is very important that he chooses the toy he is to give. This principle works always win-win. You can also apply this principle to new clothes.
In the child it is also important to attach love to good deeds. For example, if you buy him candy, fruit or other sweets, then arrange with the child that he will share them with those children with whom he will play in the yard. Teach a child to give always and everywhere and then to bring up a good person in it will not be difficult.
It is important that there is communication between you and the child. Invent and tell your child tales and stories about good people, that there is a law in the world "what a person sows, then he will collect." To bring up the described quality in a child, it is important to take part in the life of the child, to learn together with him the surrounding world and the laws that exist in it.
Sow in your child love and in time you will reap a decent, kind and honest person and be able to be proud of them until old age!