How to divide your mother for two? Waiting for the second child is a great joy. But here the parents are waiting for a lot of difficulties. Children's jealousy at the birth of other children is a problem that most families face. You can not avoid jealousy, but you can reduce this feeling to a minimum. Then the children will not compete for your love, but will become truly native people and close friends.
It is necessary to tell about the future baby, but it needs to be done somewhere in the fifth month, for a nine-month waiting is too long for a small child. It's better to do this together with the spouse, like this: "We want to tell you an amazing news, you will soon have a brother or sister." Do not ask at once if he is happy. Tell him how small the baby is at first, how he will need your common concern. It should be explained that the newborn will not play games and talk, but at first only a lot of sleep. Take the child with you to the store, when you will buy a dowry, consult with him, thank for help. When the baby pushes in the tummy, let the older one touch.
In any case, do not allow the phrases that at the birth of the baby about the elder will be forgotten, or he will have to help with the housework all the time. This should not be said even in jest, otherwise irritation and anger may occur.
On the first day after the hospital, the attention of all adults will be focused on the newborn, and you will definitely take time to the firstborn, because he misses you very much. Sit next to him, talk, let him take a picture or shoot at the baby's camera, so he will also take part in the life of the family. And yet it can happen, so that the older child, hoping to return the past, begins to ask for pens, distort words and even write in panties. Try not to scold, but play along. He wants to be swaddled and shaken, drunk from a bottle, do not refuse, because having achieved the desired, the child loses interest in it. And you emphasize that he is big and already knows how to do things himself, and the baby can not do it. Do not forget to caress the elder, especially if it's a boy. Studies have shown that they need it even more than girls, take the rule of ironing and kissing the elder at least 12 times a day, even if your father helps you too.The whole life of a young mother around a baby: you need to wash walk, cook food. And next to the older child, who also wants to play. What to do? Teach your first child "adult games." You can arrange a joint washing, and while preparing a dinner, a drawing lesson, for example, beetroot, just lay an oilcloth on the floor and put on clothes that you do not mind getting dirty. During the walk, when the youngest sleeps, you can devote time to the elder, who can explore all the slides and swings.
Do not compare your children. It can hurt a child, because each of them is good in its own way. We are all different in temperament and talent. We must separately emphasize the dignity of each of the children.
Create situations in which cooperation is required, for example, collect toys together. You can invent games involving imagination: playing in a store, building a fortress, etc.
Children will inevitably quarrel, teach them to listen to each other, or just spread out the rooms in different directions, let them be alone and bored. Praise if they were able to resolve the conflict. Do not encourage paganism against each other, but if the child wants to tell what he did himself, listen and praise for frankness. The main thing is to make sure that your children understand: if someone is injured or in danger, then you should find out about it immediately.Psychologists say that childhood jealousy at the birth of other children is a healthy feeling. But why do we need unnecessary nerves, do not we?