The child always does something, then scatter toys, then pour water on your favorite carpet, then break the vase. In short all day, the house is upside down. There are many more reasons for the parent to become angry with his child. At this moment, any parent wants to punish his child.
How to punish a child correctly, so as not to infringe on him at least a small, but already dignified. First you need to understand what you want to achieve from the child. To cause physical pain for the child to experience painful feelings, fear and resentment, remembering these feelings, henceforth he did not allow himself anything of the sort. Or help him understand that he is wrong?
If you take the first path, it will certainly have its effect. Under the fear of physical violence in the form of a belt or a cotton palm, the child will calm down for a while and will stop in every possible way to mock your "nerves". But soon the child will begin to understand that it is possible to do everything, the main thing at this moment is not to catch the eye of the parent. Or you can commit a more severe offense, and for it will fall just as well as for the ordinary. Over the years, he will begin to get used to physical pain, and this he will no longer bring those feelings of fear and pain as in childhood.
Throughout development the child will understand that it is possible to beat people, with him they did exactly the same. You can cheat, it's easier to get out of the situation. The result of your cruel education can be deplorable, the child will become more aggressive over the years and more violent.
Having chosen the second way to solve the problem, keep from indignation, screaming, slapping and intimidation by the angle.
Strictly demand to stop the ugly behavior. Let him clearly understand. That in your family this behavior is unacceptable.
Do not shout useless "why are you?", You just need to explain to your child what you need to do to turn the situation into another direction. Give him a rag so he rubs the floor behind him, if he tears his clothes, give him a needle and thread, let him sit and sew. It does not matter how he does it. It is important that he will eliminate his mistakes himself.
When a child is already at school age, the worst test for him is a vow of silence. Parents stop talking to him, and he does everything to make them talk.
The child should calmly explain why he is punished, do not scream and do not intimidate.
When the child does not obey. Mom should explain to him. What feelings does it cause in her. She should directly tell the child that she is very upset at this moment.
It is not necessary to talk about punishment, but to postpone it in the long box. A child can go crazy with the expectation of the inevitable.
One of the important points: when and where to conduct a "debriefing". If it concerns a small child, then it must be punished at the very moment when he did something. Because the child's memory is short, and he can not understand why he was punished, if some time passes. After punishment, the child will reflect on his behavior and will continue to behave inappropriately.
For punishment, you can have a special chair, which will seat the offending child. He will be afraid of this chair, and will try not to do anything wrong, so as not to fall on this symbolic chair. At the moment of your child's sitting in this chair, you can hold serious conversations with him. Give the child to speak too, do not build only a monologue, you need a dialogue so that you understand each other better. The child also has his own opinion on what is happening.
Do not punish a child while eating, let him calmly eat, and then instill in him the rules of good behavior, how much you want. Otherwise, the child can permanently repel the appetite, then you will again be tormented how to teach the child to eat.
Do not punish the baby if he is sick, or just woke up. Do not punish him while playing. And still, when the child tried to improve the situation, but he did not quite succeed.
At the moment when the kid is upset, he rushes out of your hands, he screams. Do not hurry to punish him at this moment, but think better. Why does your child behave this way? Maybe the kid just wants to sleep, or wants to be noticed. In any case, analyze your child's behavior, why he does this or that behavior.
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Physical punishment that harms the child (blows to the head, back, jerks and kicks, flogging). Such actions humiliate and offend the child, this offense will remain with him for life.
Use of insults: "Dumb, scoundrel, fool, idiot, etc." The child at this moment feels humiliated and offended, and at the moment can not resist you. But eventually it will all affect your relationship with him.
Mental suffering , negatively affect the psyche of the child. Do not lock your child in a dark room if he is afraid of the dark.
Words: "I do not love you", "You are bad." The child will take this as an attitude towards himself, and not his tricks. The most terrible thing for him is the dislike of his parents.