But here there is another danger - a man can strongly wear off, and then, poduvshis, waved at you with his hand and will begin to look for another sexual partner, which will be more compliant. And who then to blame? It was not necessary to be rude to the spouse, when he was all set up with the essence of adjustment and love. But if there was no mood? Then send him diplomatically away! And maybe then his agitated bodies will calm down, and the idea of finding another partner will not be enough to satisfy him.
Men belong to the "creatures" with a subtle emotional association, so they can be touched by the living without special efforts. Especially if it's about sex. The constant "no", said in a severe tone of imbibition can be compared to a cat, which constantly attack the tail. Cotscheet, yelling and hiding under the couch. If the wife refused to her husband in sex, he will do the same, start snapping, pouting and going to sleep in another room, but this is at best. In the worst case, he simply goes to sleep in another apartment, where he will then be difficult to pick up. Then how can I refuse my husband in the neighborhood, without offending him? We are now pondering this question.
How does a strong half of humanity react to a denial of intimacy ?
If a man he loves begs for sex is not on time, why do you want to be rude all the time? Often this happens on a subconscious level, less often on a conscious level. The fact is that any sexual claims (especially if we do not want to have sex at this moment), even our beloved spouse is regarded as an attempt of violence and / or aggression. That's why we have a reflex and we try to fight back, releasing claws. Like, leave me my dear and beloved, alone, otherwise the entrance will be clawed. It would seem that everything is clear, but not for a man.
The man understands everything not as we and such a reaction with the "released" claws is perceived differently. In their minds, the desire to love with his wife is compared with a scandal. And if the beloved spouse has rejected in sex, and even in rough form, then the man draws his conclusions and comes to the conclusion that he simply ceased to satisfy her. What in this case are the offended men doing? To assert themselves, they find a sexual partner on the side. On the side, in addition to the genital organ, there is also a rising of self-esteem.
For the family, the campaigns of the faithful on the side tend to end badly. Why does he constantly run from house to house, constantly wriggle out, coming up with different excuses? Is it not easier for him to move into the house of a woman who does not deny him sex. Of course, it is easier, especially if the wife, learned about the treason and she herself throws him into other people's apartments.
Of course, there are times when a woman only dreams that her faithful leave her house. And then she purposely refuses to cut off so that she can get rid of it faster. Most women do not want one of the days in the wardrobe to not have the clothes of the spouse, and in the hallway of his slippers. Therefore, if there is no desire to study with your favorite sex, learn to say "no" correctly. There are several ways in which you can deny sex, while not insulting a man.
Conflict refusal of sex
Of course, it is not worthwhile to go to bed with force, if the beloved is timidly approached and asks you for intimacy. Believe me, nothing good will come of this. Any man will probably notice that everything on your side is going on with clenched teeth. As a result, he will make a conclusion for himself that proximity is like a bitter pill. He can even harbor grievances, which can result in vitomage in the desire to revenge.
To the beloved is not offended, you can switch it from sexual desire to something else, for example, a new toy, recently installed on a computer (if, of course, he is addicted to computer games) or a poker tournament (if he is addicted). If he is not interested in any one of the proposed options, then turn on the TV and watch with him a sports show - boxing, football, hockey.
At first it may seem that the running of the peasants for a football ball is uninteresting and meaningless. But there are cases when women are indifferent to the sport, they become sports fans or are just keen on sports games. Who knows, after a few games, we can add to their ranks. But even if we do not become fans, we can sacrifice our own interests so that the faithful do not molest. He will be pleased, and we, too, that he forgot (of course, for the time being) about sex.
If you do not want to sacrifice your interests at all, then a pleasant business can be combined with useful. If the husband wanted to have sex during the transfer, then you can start with a light petting (hugs, kisses, stroking erogenous zones, while direct contact of the genitalia is excluded), apodom go to the caresses of the genital male organ. And that hands are still free! There you look, an interesting program will end and do not want to refuse from sex.
And you can just smile and whisper, "I'm not ready today, but tomorrow I'll arrange something that just sway!".
Men are more concerned not with the fact of failure, but with the method that was used during the refusal; ignorance of when all the same there will be sex and whether it will be at all; in which tone the refusal was made.
Therefore, from sex refuses affectionately and promise that tomorrow is provided (the next day do not forget about your promise), and it must be masterly. If the husband is dumbfounded, next time he will more readily agree to postpone sex for tomorrow.
In any case, one can not constantly ignore the harassing of an affectionate, much less rudely reject. A man loves when they tenderly talk to him, delicately motivating his refusal. The traditional headache here is not working, because he can drag his lover to the examination. Having learned the verdict of the doctor is "healthy", how will you justify yourself before your husband? So think about something more original. Remember, husbands often run away from wives who are constantly exhausted by non-existent diseases!
In general, remember that sex is a pleasant and useful activity that rejuvenates, calms, reduces weight, relieves stress and then you can not think how better it is to refuse sex!